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wiping the slate clean
May 23, 2001
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i have just found out that i have a std!
i feel scared and ashamed. there isn't anyone i can talk to. is it really a bad thing to get? i feel angry with myself for being careless too.

May 23, 2001
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Sometimes we have to learn our lessons the hard way, and I am quite sure you will never make the mistake again. don't feel so bad, look at all the idiots out there still smoking, like news flash!!!!! The most important thing is that you have obtained treatment, be sure that you took an HIV test as well, and get retested for everything in 6 months. Didn't say if you were male or female, but if female, you need to make sure that you obtained treatment in time, and must be so very careful in the future, don't be so hard on your self, just don't be so quick to jump into bed, and always always carry your own condoms.

May 23, 2001
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There are support groups too. Once you learn how to deal, it becomes as easy as making coffee in the morning.

May 23, 2001
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thanks for the replys
no won't be jumping ever again! but u can still get them if your married!
molly: what do u mean retest in 6 months? does that depend on what u have? the aids test i'm not sure about that? it really scares me!
i'm a girl by the way.
skimbleshanks: i wish it was coffe

May 23, 2001
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Jo Jo they say you are never safe unless you don't have sex at all. It can take six months or more for something to show up in tests which is why they say retest six months after.

May 23, 2001
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My apologies in advance for any spelling errors...

The common batteries of tests in anonymous clinics usually screen for gonnorrhea, syphilis, herpes type 1 and 2, and chlamidya. Each of these, if caught early enough, are treatable, except for Herpes 1 and 2. Herpes 1 is nothing to worry about, most people actually have it. They manifest as cold sores. How many people have you seen running around with Blistex in the winter during cold season? Really, it's very common. Herpes 2 is the one that people worry about, and although there isn't a cure, there are medications out there that your doctor can prescribe which can lessen symptoms.

Please get tested for HIV, and follow through with the tests again in another 6 months to make sure that nothing else has shown up. Early detection... so key.

And, just so you know that I practice what I preach, I found out that my ex husband was with a prostitute in Singapore over a business trip while we were still together, so you can be sure that I got my derriere to the testing clinic asap.

It's really really scary, waiting for the results to come back. I know, I've been there.

And, like Molly says, that the only way to know that you will stay clean is to stay celibate. There are risks that we take when we are intimate with someone. Be careful with yourself.

May 23, 2001
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You are right, regarding being married, and still not safe, as testified to by Gingerleigh. I experimented a little before I got married, and there was not allot of talk about std's we were the free love generation. I can still count the number of men I have been with on one hand. When I went to work at the clinic, I had to learn how to do presentations regarding safe sex. I had never used a condom before. The girl giving me the presentation said but how can you be sure you trust your husband? I couldn't answer the question, at the time it was not a concearn, but how do you demand condoms after 10 years of marriage, with out starting a riot?
It is damn scarey especially since call girls and prostitutes are in every publication,and on every corner, and seems to be easier than trying a real date for those who can afford. Although my husband did not use condoms when we started when we were seperated, the way I did catch him cheating was a reciept for them, soooooooo go figure, strange world we live in today. I don't know why a man would put him self at risk with a pro, knowing she or he was a pro, just one of those it will never happen to me situations I guess.

May 24, 2001
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Having an STD can really suck. I was lucky to only get HPV - human papilloma virus, and a very mild case. It's related to genital warts. But God knows I never went unprotected after that - kind of sad that it took an std to make me learn my lesson. Anyways, I haven't had any problems with it at all.

But get an aids test, it's not that bad except for the 2 weeks you have to wait for the results! But it's a very necessary thing. I've gotten one every 6 months since I was sexually active, but now that I've been with my fiancee 2 years with clear tests, I've stopped taking them.

May 24, 2001
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what worries me the most is the overall examination. i mean its degrading and it really scares me. i know its something i have to do, so i will. i want all this to be in the past. i keep thinking about what the worst thing that could happen! and thats die from aids! i wish i wish i could turn the clock back. but enough of that its silly i know. so i will go get all the tests because this not knowing is horrid.
ci-ci: thats what my doctor has said i have, warts. oh my god i'm gutted.
i used to be good girl, still am, got hurt then lost my sanity and took stupid risks, for what? love, affection ,attention? god knows, but it wasn't worth it.
i'm really anoyed with myself.

May 24, 2001
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Jo-jo...
You might want to know that you're not alone in this. Many people have std of all kinds. Not to minimize the concern - you feel really stupid and annyed with yourself right now. You are not stupid.

Ask your doctor what to do to keep them from spreading. Planned Parenhood offers information too.

You're right - it's NOT coffee, but you can begin lowering your stress by loving yourself despite having made the mistake.

May 24, 2001
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jo-jo, i know exactly how you feel. I was in the same situation for the same ambiguous reasons. Seeking something undefineable - as if a sex partner could do that, ha ha.

yeah, hpv isn't that big of a deal. I went crazy with immune-system building herbs like echinacea and goldenseal and elderflower. I take my vitamins every other day. I just try to keep my immune system up so I don't get a flare up. It's worked so far. Luckily, most men aren't affected by the disease, they tend to be carriers. Well, it sucks for women, though!

May 24, 2001
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cici: yea never will i do that again, looking for some love? really, how ridic have i been? time to grow up and face the music.
skimbleshanks: i'll love myself when all this is over. but right now i'm punishing myself. in two weeks i wil have had the test, used what ever treatment there is. and made up my mide to be celebate? (is that spelt right?)
cheers for the soothing replys they have helped me. but just cant't stop hearing that voice in my head,' you foolish, foolish .............................

July 7, 2001
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I guess this is wiping the slate clean. I know from time to time I need a clean slate.

Cloud--you say you were put out by your counsler, well I'm here if you need a friend. Look at it like you have a clean slate and talk about some of the things you do go to counsleing for or just come in her and shot the bull if ya want to. I'm not saying everyone in here well be all that nice(trust me I know) but I'll be a friend to you. Have a great day!!!! Damaged

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