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will I ever forget her,,PART 2
May 20, 2009
4:03 pm
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nexpose
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Over a month ago basically I wrote a post about how my GF broke up with me and is now moved away. It's been about a month and a half with no contact and all of a sudden out of the blue she just texted me. She's a couple states over but just said she wanted to say hi and that she's been thinking of me. And also she'd get back again after work.

I know I can't read anything into this or can I? I know her birthday is coming up and no doubt she remembers how great I treated her last year and surprised her. She said it was her best birthday ever.

I don't know if I want to be in touch again or should I move on? I mean she really hurt me and honestly just threw me away.

I know I'm just getting way ahead of myself but what if she slowly wants to talk and see what could happen?

I guess it's just a hello and all but I honestly never thought she'd get in touch again first. I had tried but she didn't leave me any updated contact info.

She always knows I text back and I'll admit I had been like a lap dog just trying.

Know I hadn't texted back yet and want to wait for her but guess in a few days I'd text back. I don't know, hahaha.

This has caused me immense pain and wonder if I'd have the courage to say to her I don't want any contact. I thought that's how she felt but now she initiated contact.

I'm just really confused since I think I'd take this woman back and know that wouldn't be right.

I guess I should go by gut instinct but in the end I'm making a mountain out of a mole hill with just one text. But it sure surprised me and has me swirling in some kind of way.

Thanks.

May 20, 2009
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ahhh the codep thinking....the what ifs and could haves....First, decide and remember the reason why you are apart, and what she did to you??

maybe she doesn't have anyone in her life, and misses the good things about you and her?

but is that enough to take her back?? how bad did she hurt you???

Yes....((nexpose)) go with your gut instinct, you know you shouldn't take her back, cuz again, she may hurt you down the road, again....take this a step in the right direction, a step at getting stronger and feeling better about yourself...and do "no contact"...and know you are worthy and deserve a better person in your life!!

May 20, 2009
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nexpose,

I agree with Camer. Your codependant thinking is getting in the way and you will get hurt again. Be strong and don't text back and have peace knowing that she is missing you, but that it may be only for her best interest; not for you or for you and her to get back together.

My X contacted me first too many of times and still the same person and still tries to hurt me. I just don't respond anymore and I feel much better about ME and I am getting stronger by the day.

Think of YOU>

Love, Z

May 21, 2009
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hi nexpose, i do remember how hurt you were. just brush off the idea of you and her back together and move on with your life, you deserve better.

May 21, 2009
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SLOW DOWN!
sometimes our heart rules our head, if you feel you havent gotten over her then maybe you need this in order to get your life back on track, this way you know for sure if she is for you or not, good luck.

May 21, 2009
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Thanks all. I do know myself and ultimately I side with CANCER since I'm at least happy knowing there is now some sort of contact again. I mean she is over 1000 miles away so I'm not going to make any effort anymore to get back. That day is dead and gone for me. It's her birthday soon and I'll wish her well then. She knows she's the one that ended it all and made her choice. Plus, I then did all I could to try. It almost worked too.

I'm going ahead and trying to date some and have a prospect or two. 🙂 Of course I think of my ex and could never guarantee if she truly repented what I'd do but too much has happened for anything like that.

Thanks.

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