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why so confused
February 6, 2006
3:27 pm
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I wish I was In love
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i don't love him ; i am very unhappy with him, i dont like him anyway so why cant i just leave him i have tryed so many times
we do things together like go to dinner but thats about it and when the time comes for intimancy , i feel like running and screamming away!!!!! i don't know where to go were to start. any advise - reminder i have left him about 6-7 times and leave and come back!!!!!!!!!what is wrong with me!

February 6, 2006
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I wish I was in Love -

Oh boy - this sounds so familiar to me. Is it possible he enables you? Does he rescue you? Is everything you do fine with him to the point where you start to feel like you aren't capable of doing things on your own? I know I kept going back to a man I didn't really love b/c of the security he offered, and he is extremely co-dependent. I'm now married to him and in crisis. He always made himself available to me and took care of things when I didn't even ask him to. to onlookers (my plausibility structure) he seemed like the perfect person for me. I'm not saying he's a bad person - I just married him for all of the wrong reasons.

O.K. - sorry - I'm now making this all about me *grin* - Start building your own support structure away from him. Find people to help you stay strong. He obviously wants you at all costs, and he is ignoring the signals you show him...he isn't respecting what you say when you break up - and if it is like me - the rescuing is all too appealing.

I'll keep you in my prayers. I'm sure some of the veterans here will have better input for you!

Lilly

February 6, 2006
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Hehehe. Are you sure this isn't my life?
27years later.....Get help ....Go get some counseling and become strong. I agree make friends with strong -healthy people.
I struggle almost everyday.

February 7, 2006
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thank you all for your good advise and for listling.- He doesnt care when i tell him i dont want to be with him anymore he just ignores me or he may say what did i do now! , this is not about now -i tell but he is in complete denial, i want to go far but where can i go . sometimes i feel so upset and so unhappy that i become depressed. I feel like breaking everthing in this house and i feel like just running were i would never see him or his family again. I need to do things in my life and i dont do nothing but go to church, lately because i have a back conditon i tell him i cant go to church with him because i cant sit,
but really its because i dont want to be around him. although it really hurts at times- if i leave him he has to sell this house and give me half, I wish i had a new life some where far. and soon!!!!!!!! thak you all my new friends.

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