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Why I AM A QUITTER
January 11, 2007
2:06 pm
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lettingo
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It was really hard for to give up on my dysfunctional marriage because I hate to quit but here are good reasons I came up for quitting!

I AM A QUITTER BECAUSE:

I don’t want to live in fear anymore.
I don’t want to be lied to anymore.
I don’t want anyone stealing from me anymore.
I don’t want to waste anymore of my life.
I don’t want to live in financial chaos.
I don’t want to live with someone who is unpredictable.
I don’t want to live with someone who breaks the law.
I’m tired of jails, pawn shops, detox, treatment, etc.
I don’t want to be hurt on a constant basis.
I can’t take the disappointments.
I am sick and tired of being sick and tired.
I'm tired of getting my hopes up just to get them smashed over and over.
I am tired of the illusion I’ve been living in.
I’m tired of being mommy.
I'm tired of lying and making up excuses.
I'm tired of feeling embarrassed and shame for something I didn't do.
I’m tired of taking care of everything.
I’m tired of cleaning up messes.
I’m tired of relying on someone who is unreliable especially for finances.
I’m tired of being in a rage.
I’m tired of saying horrible things to someone I am suppose to love
I’m tired of just wanting to escape.
I’m tired, tired, tired, tired,
I deserve so much better.
I am worth more respect and love.
I’m alone already.

January 11, 2007
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Maybe the word quitter is misused. Self Empowered is such a bettr word to describe the place you are at. ((((Lettingo)))) You are worth Respect and Love. You are giving this to yourself by taking care of yourself. You Rock!

January 11, 2007
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Lettingo,

You are not quitting, and you are not a quitter...

My cyber friend Kassie, told me it's like being a butterfly emerging from her cocoon...

That is you, you will have beautiful wings and fly....

(((lettingo)))

January 11, 2007
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You are an inspiration !! not a quitter.

Atalose

~~Hope has a place, but not above reality~~

January 11, 2007
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(((lettingo))),

That was very well written, although- I have to agree with mj- I don't feel the word "quitter" fits. That makes it sound like you failed.. and in fact, you did the exact opposite.. you overcame and survived a life of craziness and chaos.

You should be very proud of yourself.
You had the strength to do what it took to take care of yourself, even though it was soo soo hard!

January 11, 2007
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Thanks for all the comments. And when I stop and think about it, I am proud that I was able to take a leap off that cliff knowing it needed to be done. I guess I'm still waiting for those wings to take over. I know in time they will...

January 11, 2007
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Great strength!

January 15, 2007
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That post was AWESOME!

January 15, 2007
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Hi. Being a quitter in your case is a good thing. Sometimes quitting is your only answer so that you can move forward for a better life. Sometimes trying too hard is not worth the effort. I admire you for quitting. Sometimes it takes guts to quit and there is no shame in that. You are at something new now in your life and that is the focus from now on and you won't quit on yourself right?

January 15, 2007
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I don't consider you a quitter! I consider that you are...like the name you chose...letting go! Lettingo, you can only do so much to make a difference, to make things work, or to change things! I had been asking myself that same question for a long time. Now I have been asking myself when was/is enough, enough?

January 15, 2007
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Thanks everyone for your comments. I guess I see Hope and Quitting totally different. Hope was my enemy when I keep seeing the slightest improvement as the hope that he would change his behavior. Sometimes it is good to not have hope and move on and to quit knocking your head into a wall. They say the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results. Well that was me.

January 16, 2007
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Lettingo,
It is easy to not make changes. It is difficult to "let go" but that is also how we grow and gain strength.
I often remind myself of the saying,"with every door that closes a new one opens" and "this too shall pass"....I have yet to see where these sayings don't hold true!! Be proud of yourself for having the strength to "let go"!
Unsettled

January 16, 2007
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I agree--you are not a quitter. You are a survivor that is tired of putting up with junk and starting to heal!!!!

What an inspiration!!!!

Continue on the path and keep us informed/inspired.

January 16, 2007
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I needed to read everyone's posts on this.

Cuz I have been struggling with the idea of "quitting". I did not want to quit, I did not want to fail again.

But yeah, I like the idea of "letting go" of all that is not working for me.

Thanks, I needed the boost.

January 16, 2007
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Words are very powerful things. Words can heal, words can hurt so you can never say that words are unimportant. But quitting is not necessarily bad, it really depends on the context in which it is being used in.

If you are butting your head against a wall then quitting is smart.

If you are quitting school and hanging with a bad crowd then quitting is stupid.

If you are quitting because you just don't want to apply yourself to get something you want and could achieve because it is too hard then quitting is lazy.

If you are quitting a bad habit then quitting is good.

The way in which it is described above quitting is deserved and that type of quitting takes great strength. That is why everyone here says that type of quitting is inspirational because it truly is.

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