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Why do we have to have negative emotions?
September 15, 2003
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Why do we have to have negative emotions be a part of who we are? Why do we have to feel jealousy and anger and frustration? What purpose do those negative emotions have but to make us feel bad?

September 16, 2003
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Ts, I wonder if we didn't experience anger, frustration , jealousy and their many cousins 🙂 would we truly enjoy contentment, elation, satisfaction and their crew? Without the bad, how would we appreciate the good? It would all be boringly happy happy joy joy until we puked. Or, we wouldn't grow and learn if everything was hunky-dory. You know?

September 16, 2003
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You may be right SFB, but why are we only taught how to deal with the good emotions? Why are people so scared of the bad ones? At least my parents were that way.

September 16, 2003
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I always feel uncomfortable with the bad ones, like rage, anger, and sadness. I like to feel good.
I look to make lemonade with the lemons, knowing that the emotions are still there, but I am training myself to focus on the good things in my life cause, I hate feeling negative.

Behavior modification. My mom is really negative. Always looking at the bad things....and maybe I just want to feel happy.

I think the emotions we feel, help us to identify what we need to change in our lives. If we are angry, where is the anger coming from. Is it our past experience...or is it cause someone is hurting us in the here and now. Emotions are a good thing. Its the way we deal with our emotions...that can be negative.

September 16, 2003
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TS
I found this on the subject:

http://www.worldtrans.org/TP/T.....2A-35.HTML

September 16, 2003
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Thanks UC. That was a very informative article. It made sense too and that is always helpful. 🙂

I guess we need to have all emotions as the article said - we can't keep one and get rid of the other - they have to be integrated somehow. Thanks again.

September 16, 2003
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Imagine the world if everyone was happy and giggling all of the time!

September 17, 2003
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Or never worried about anything! I think that generally negative emotions are meant to warn us of dangers. And help us learn what we want and how we want things.

September 17, 2003
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I think we have negative emotions because we are being stepped on. that someone inside us is complaining loudly about it, and if we don't stand up and say "stop" the sense of unfairness just builds up. It can come out in anger, depresssion, resentment, cynicism...

September 17, 2003
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Why are people (including myself) so unsure of how to deal with negative emotions? You get punished as a child when you have those emotions. Thanks for everyone's input on this subject. I like all the different ideas and thoughts. 🙂

September 18, 2003
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My mom sent me an email this morning and it was a forward that she had received from someone else. I thought that it was interesting and went along with this thread.

"Native American Wisdom"

An old Cherokee was teaching his grandson about life. "A fight is
going on inside me," he said to the boy. "It is a terrible fight,
and it is between two wolves.

"One is evil--he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance,
self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride,
superiority, and ego.

"The other is good--he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity,
humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth,
compassion, and faith.

"This same fight is going on inside you and inside every other
person, too."

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his
grandfather, "Which wolf will win?"

The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed."

September 18, 2003
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I just love that story. Very easy to apply to ourselves.

September 18, 2003
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TS,

Thanks for sharing that... what a new way to look at life.

Love,
Z.

September 18, 2003
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That is so wonderful and sensible. thanks!!! I think that will have a great influence on me.

hugs to you TS
love,
camper

September 18, 2003
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I'm glad that you guys liked it. It made sense to me too. 🙂

September 21, 2003
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They're not negative. They just are. The fact that society condemns them is what makes them 'negative'. And it's what makes them strong, uncontrollable, till they really become negative.

The ancient Greek didn't repress talk about those emotions. They attributed those same emotions to their gods too, therefore showing that they are not 'negative' emotions but totally natural.

What we repress becomes stronger and comes out in inappropriate ways.

September 21, 2003
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My happy wolf is getting fed today 🙂

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