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why do people want me to stop cutting??
January 17, 2007
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i dont understand anymore

i used to want to stop cutting but now i give up on that caz i realize how much i really need it. and i dont think cutting is bad so i dont know why everyone including my therapist wants me to stop cutting. if it works then i dont know where the harm is. why are people so scared of it.

i can't stop and now i don't want to caz i realize it's all i have!!

January 17, 2007
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iggie,

I've never cut myself, but I strongly suspect that you have a lot to offer others and yourself. Why do you suppose that cutting is all you have?

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January 18, 2007
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((((Iggie)))) I am a cutter also. I will tell ya that I understand that at times cutting seems to be all that ya have but it's very dangerous. Accidents can and will happen and cutting can get out of hand and end up destroying ya. It's almost like using drugs and once ya start and become addicted then you keep on goin till ya find more and more pleasure or release from it. Thats when it gets way out of hand. Cutting is never a healthy way to cope. It's not easy to stop, I know that from experience but stopping is a must. Trust me, you are on a dangerous path and it doesn't get better it just gets worse. There are meds that help with the urges and I am on them and they do help. They don't take it completely away but it makes it tolerable. I hope some of what I have written helps. Hang in there and take it one day at a time. You can do this. Try not to lose hope. Take care!!

January 20, 2007
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I don't even know that much about cutting but I wish you would cut it out. You must find a better way to cope with your feelings. It makes me squeamish to even hear of such a thing. Check out this website and see what you think.
http://www.kidshealth.org/teen.....tting.html

January 20, 2007
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iggie

You ask why people want you to stop cutting?

Then you say that once you wanted to stop, but realise how much you need it.

The first step would be to see in yourself that you have problems emotionally that you want to cure by cutting yourself.

I mean if cutting was the order of the day everbody would be cutting themselves. Right!

But its not and there is reasons for it.

If you feel like it you can start with opening up on your emotional side. Tell what hurt you etc.

Remember that nobody in this world knows you on this site. This is a very safe place to express yourself.

Please take this as an offer from me to try and understand

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January 20, 2007
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Iggie, Cutting is very dangerous. I have never cut myself, but I hope that you know there are other tools out there to help you cope. It may seem like all you have right now, but believe me, there's many more options out there for you. I just watched last weekend "intervention" on A&E and they had a girl on there who was a cutter. I can handle alot of stuff as I work in the healthcare field, however I almost couldn't handle watching it. I don't know your story so I don't know why or what made you start to cut yourself. There are many risks involved also, especially of infection, becoming anemic, etc...
Please just know that there is a tremondous amount of support here if you want it.
Please stop harming yourself. There are other ways.
Take care!!!!
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January 20, 2007
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people want you to quit cutting, because its dangerous. They care about you and probably see that cutting slices in your body is not healthy or wise. I don't understand the concept of cutting yourself up to feel better.

I don't know anyone personally who would think someone shouldn't stop mutilating themselves.

Self mutilation is what it is.

There must be deep wounds to cause such emotional distress that you could do something like this. I don't understand the concept. But in my opinon, this is why people would want you to stop.

January 23, 2007
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Please stop. I hope you get healthy enough to do so. My scars are a little better now, because I had them treated with lazers. It was expensive. But I slashed my wrists several times, and other parts of my arms. The scars that remain make me regret what I've done. However, I am glad for that regret- because it helps me control my urges.

Maybe you will always have the urge- but I promise you, if you pursue other outlets- healthier ones- that you will not need to cut as much. It is difficult to find those forms of release to take the place of any addiction, but it can be done. You have a future. You never know what you will be like, what your life will be like, and the fewer scars you have- the better.

Those you have, you can live with... but it is dangerous. You can get infections, and worse. Please stop.

peace to you,
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January 23, 2007
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Iggie,

Why do we want you to stop cutting? Because its dysfunctional. Because its a very poor and immature way of coping. And b/c its not working for you..otherwise you still wouldn't be cutting and you still wouldnt be in this emotional pain.

If cutting was a cure for emotional pain, you would have been cured by now, right? But you aren't. Which tells me (and you) thats its time to move on to something more productive. Why waste your time on a cure that only offers you temporary fixes when you can find a healthier way of handling things that will help you grow into a healthier mature adult?

Cutting does nothing more than keeps you stuck in your pain and the situation. Not only that, but its secondary gain is that it brings attention to yourself. Think about it...when you cut, you get lots of attention, right? Your friends tell you to stop. Your counselor tells you to stop..lots of people beg you to stop. Even though you may not be aware of it, this is your way of asking for attention, asking for someone to care about you, asking for somone to please take the pain away. Learn how to ASK directly for what you need so that as you mature you can have healthy relationships. When we cant do that for ourselves, then we find ourselves in unhealthy relationships over and over again as adults. Break this pattern while you can.

Please Stop punishing yourself with this cutting and get what you deserve..surrounding yourself with supportive people who will encourage you to use healthy ways of coping.

I'm glad you are reaching out and asking for our help here. I hope you continue to do so.

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January 23, 2007
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im am a recovering cutter, not by choice. i would get in this mindset that its what i needed to do, it was the only thing that work i tried getting pissed, stoned smoking cigarettes, eating chocolate, nothing helped! cutting was all i had. then the next day i would look at the wounds on my wrist and think, you dickhead! now you have to cover it up. i always wore a sweat band to cover it up, so it wasnt hard, but once it got to summer and we were going swimming i had to hide it, that was the bit i hated, i had to leave it on as much as possible, then there would be an occasion such as a formal or prom or wedding, something where i couldnt cover it up and i was so paranoide the whole time. one day my bf discovered it, i lied to him and said i hadnt done it in months and was never going to do it again, and cause he knew and we lived together i couldnt, cause i didnt want to hurt HIM. and thats how i stopped, recently ive been very tempted and last week i broke up with my bf, and now its like theres no one to stop me, no one to see it, but for some reason i know i shouldnt do it because i dont want to have to wear something over it for the rest of my life, my bf and i were engaged and had to look for wedding dresses with sleeves just so my mum wouldnt see them and be horrified. i have only stopped for other people cause it hurts them more than me. i get my release from smoking now, and i havent cut myself in 2 years, you cant cover it up forever, and its something that will stay with you forever and you will be embarrased about. i wish i had never done it, but i know when i was doing it i i thought i had no choice.
im not quite sure where i was going with that story, but that is my story. im not sure if your situation is similar or whether that kind of stuff will make you want to stop, but i know no matter what in the future you will hate your scars and hate the fact that you did it.
it is an addiction a very hard one to get out of but if you can i suggest you try. its a horrible thing to have to explain to someone close to you who just doesnt understand how you can do it.

and while were on the topic i HATE people who say that people who cut are just people who are too afraid to kill them selves and only do it for attention, those of us who have done it and understand the immence release that you get from it, will know those kind of comments are just bullshit. its something only we can understand. and they dont get that its an addiction, like drugs, like booze, whatever. so those of you who have this veiw shutup!

this was very long, i hope it has helped in someway and i havent bored you.

January 23, 2007
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I can honestly say I do not understand the need to cut beucase I just don't get it. But I do understand the need for relief over something and doing whatever that addiction is to the self. Ultimately the reason why anyone does anything damaging to their body or mind is because of low self esteem and low self worth. You don't feel good about what yourself so you do things that are not good for yourself. Everyone in the world can tell you to stop but the only person that can is you. You are your own boss. You are in charge of your life. Those that want you stop, do so because they CARE about you even if sometimes you do not. Others are scared for you because they too are afraid, afraid that you will harm yourself or worse, die. Think about someone you really care about and they were doing something harmful but that person did not understand that it was. You would be worried and be a friend. I hope you continue to seek answers because they are there. Cutting I would think would only feel good for a very brief time and would it not be nice to feel better most of the time and not have that urge to end that horrible feeling you have. I say conquer that horrible feeling, try to understand that, the how's and why's of it. I think that is universal understanding of what it is like to have a horrible feeling only we need to know a better way and making a better choice to deal with that hurt. Cutting seems to be very short temporary answer and also dangerous as you could do damage to you physically. and you could die. And i would not want that. I bet there are plenty of others that do not want that either. You obviously have quite a handful that want you around.

January 23, 2007
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I have a son who is a recovering cutter, and a daughter who just started cutting. I'll tell you why I want them to stop.

1. It is dangerous. Infections from using dirty objects to cut with. Tetanus is a possibility if you haven't had your booster shots.

2. Scarring is not pretty. It can be shocking to some people. One of these days you'll wish you didn't have scars that you have to hide -- like in your wedding dress. 🙂

3. But most important is that I KNOW that cutting is a symptom of a bigger problem. It tells me that you are hurting. Something is not right in your life. You are in emotional pain. Cutting can keep you from dealing with whatever it is that really needs to be dealt with. It's like overeating, drinking to excess, using drugs, etc. It is a way of escaping. It is a symptoms of depression and something greater going on. I want my children to deal with their pain; deal with their circumstances; talk it through; figure out ways to make things better, rather than disguising their pain or hiding it behind an addiction to cutting or something else.

January 23, 2007
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((Jastypes)), very well said. I wish you and your family the best. I will keep you in my thoughts. I cannot even imagine what that must be like to have children who cut. Mine is only 2yrs old and still so innocent. I wish I could protect her and keep her that way, but in time she will be her own person and deal with things her own way. I too agree that it is a symptom of something much greater. It is like any addiction. A cover up.
Good luck to you and your children.
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