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9:21 pm
Why are so many men ...
forthcoming, free and honest only when you are breaking up with them? Its not as if what was wanted and needed wasn't expressed or talked about off and on ... it was. Yet now that the end is expressed the "game" begins. Its as if some are only happy when the end is near and then for a period of time it is given and they try. Yet perhaps reluctantly.
Very confusing if you ask me.
Any input is appreciated. And perhaps my own hangup is ending relationships with those I love ... ending it forever.
Littlespirit
9:51 pm
September 24, 2010
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Good question!? I have no idea! 🙂
10:05 pm
September 24, 2010
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I have a theory...You know how a lot of people when they find out they have a terminal illness and suddenly their every thought is this epiphany. Well, maybe that is it. Cause when they realize that it is ending, its like a hindsight 20/20 thing or something. That and they start trying to get you to no break up with them. That and men are so repressed in terms of thier emotions in society that in the end, their emotions don't make any sense.
10:38 pm
That feels true loverbee
It seems to me that some live in the past because it is safe ... it is over and so freedom. Yet I believe that to be truely deeply in love with someone teaches us and liberates us to see and learn things about ourselves that we could never ever learn on our own.
As as for repressed feelings with some men, to me that is about fear ... fear of being fully alive.
3:37 am
September 30, 2010
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I guess you're no different than me, I pick the wronge women. As for me, I'm the exact opposite of what you described. Live in the past? My best is yet to come, I'm creative/assertive, love writing, recording, performing music. Never look back, tell same old jokes. I'm not ready to wear diapers, like some of my friends in their 40's or 30's. Always speak my mind, NO secrets, and want to know what's on everyone else's mind too, not a mind reader. Communication is vital. Know what makes you happy.
9:51 am
September 30, 2010
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I laughed when I saw this because that is so TRUE! I just never thought of it.
10:07 am
September 24, 2010
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Here is the reality.
most "show up" when they feel they are losing you...what the 11th hour thing?
and if you give them another chance, then they usually revert to old behaviours in a short time.
Most can't ALWAYS be forthcoming and honest, upfront...only when it's critical.
And to them, the only time it's critical is when you have one foot out the door.
But it's hard for them to be that person ALL the time.
some come around, but most don't.
It's like they throw out all the stops to keep you...when they should have been doing it all along.
10:09 am
September 24, 2010
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I also don't think it's isolated to men, in all fairness.
I think it's just a symptom of an unhealthy partner, who can be man or woman...I have seen many women suddenly "change their ways" in the 11th hour...in effort to keep their partner at all costs.
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