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Why am I terrified of being in a relationship?
October 27, 2008
9:32 pm
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GeeZee07458
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Why am I terrified in being in a relationship. Moreso, taking the step and asking someone out on a date. I am terrified, and it feels like I will be alone forever. I am a good person, and go out of the way to help others. I am "young," yet never once had a girlfriend, or went on an actual date. I am starting to feel hopeless. I fill my life with "things to do" such as working long hours, and going to school at night, just to aviod the subject, yet it is a constant thought in my mind. I do not want to be alone, and feel that I am deserving of someone who loves me, yet why do I not persue the issue. Why do I hide from the fear? Even when people try to set me up, or tell me they know someone who would be perfect for me, I either change the subject, or dont make the call. HELP! I'm a 20 something male and I never had a girlfriend, and feeling like there is no hope.

October 27, 2008
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Fear of rejection can be overwhelming, so overwhelming that you avoid the subject entirely.

Work on what you fear, when you think about going out on a date what do you fear the most?

A long time ago someone taught me this about fear:

F – false

E –evidence

A – appearing

R – real

Often our fears are like the monster in the closet, until we open that closet door and find out for ourselves there is no monster, we allow our fears to overwhelm us.

Atalose

~~Hope has a place, but not above reality~~

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