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Why am I sad?
July 14, 2000
4:12 pm
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I have always been a happy person but sometimes it's almost like I want to be sad.....and I have no idea why.

I have a wonderful boyfriend and we're in a loving relationship...but I think more about how I'll feel if we break up than my time with him now.

Even when I listen to different songs, I start thinking about different unfortunate things that COULD happen in my life and juststart crying for no real reason...

Has anyone else ever gone through this?
Does it seem strange? Maybe I just don't know how to handle my feelings. I'd appreciate any feedback you all could give 🙂 thanks.

July 14, 2000
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I think this is mainly aproblem for people who are highly empathic. They tend to feel their own feelings very intensely, and can easily empathize with others. They are often highly intelligent and very sensitive, artistic or appreciative of the arts, and can internalize the suffering of other people easily. Highly empathic people often become teachers, counselors, or involved in religious organizations.

As for the feelings about your boyfriend, I think it's common whenyou start to feel strongly for someone to fear that vulnerability. When you open up to someone you make yourself very vulnerable to being hurt and you naturlaly want to protect yourself against this. The empath's way is to constantly force yourself to go through the emotions you would feel if you broke up. That way, you internalize, you will know how it will feel and be prepared.

It just takes confidence. The mere knowledge that you are predisposed to these behaviors can help you recognize and curb them, if youwant to. Personally, i see nothign wrong with feeling that way as long as you're not obsessive about it.

July 14, 2000
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Castle...live in the moment, the now, this very instant...we are not fortune tellers and cannot predict the future. As the song goes, "don't worry , be happy. Everything will be as it should. How about the songs We've only just begun"..."The greatest love of all".......True Colors".......

July 14, 2000
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Castle: We can't be happy all the time, can we? There's nothing wrong with feeling sad and blue from time to time. Many factors can be involved, like Cici mentioned just being sensitive to others' feelings. I have the same "problem" that Cici described, and I have to take extra special care not to over tax myself with "feeling" others' feelings. I once thought of it as a curse, but now I understand why I was given this gift. I just wish others had the same gift, what a wonderful world this would be if more people could "feel" another. Have a long soak and free your mind, let peace flow into you and release all to the Higher Spirit.

July 16, 2000
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castle...i can totaly relate to what you're going through. For example, yesterday my brother really got me with some of the things he said to me, and i just broke down and started crying. I've totaly developed an attitude like 'stay the hell away from me' but in all factuality i really need someone that i can relate to and just have fun with. I know that I should change my attitude because I'm just depressing to be around but how can you change something you've become so acustome to being? I really don't know. I'm started writing down my thoughts and i've started thinking of ways that i can change things but now i just need to try and make them work. perhaps if you started writing down some of your thoughts it would help you to sort out some of your emotions and decide what's really behind them

July 20, 2000
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to castle I feel like we are in the same boat. I do the same thing. everytime I hear a song about breaking up or love I wonder if this would be a song I or my boyfreind will ever have to play for one anthor. It is a very scary and sad feeling. What do you do when this happens. you know to make all the wierd feelings go away? I always shove my feelings in this little bottle inside me. It's not working very well, cuz now I am always depresed ,sad ,and feel gulity and ashamed. maybe you could give me a better alternitive?

July 21, 2000
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Confused.....

This is the same thing I do exactly concerning songs. I don't know why, but I can't stop thinking about sad things...mostly when it comes to RELATIONSHIPS. How do I handle it? My boyfriend's an optimist so he always just tells me to think about how happy we are together now and not worry about sad stuff....it's pointless. So, yeah...I just shove it aside. I'm not depressed, by definition, so I don't have an extremely hard time doing this. I just wonder why I keep on doing it when there's no rhyme or reason.

So, I'm going to take the advice everyone gave me on this thread and try to find peace within myself.
Confused....you should do the same thing:) I don't really have an alternative to what I do.....besides forcing myself to keep a positive attitude about my relationship. I think that's the only thing we can do sometimes :). Trying this has helped me before.....sometimes if I tell myself I'm being irrational...I start to believe it. Try it! 🙂

July 21, 2000
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Music, the universal language....negitive messeges, positive ones, sad ones, happy ones...I prefer to CHOOSE uplifting music which helps build positive energy and outlooks. One of my favorite lyrics in part is by the group YES....."You and I can change the world, the more we live, the more we learn, the more we grow. "From this moment on we share the world, the more we see, the more we care, the more we know"....."We hold the key to all the answers"

July 24, 2000
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Some of us, from past experiences, believe that we are not worthy of happiness, nor of love given freely. However, all of us were given the Spirit given right to be happy, first with ourselves, then with another. We were also given the right to love and be loved without condition. Only when we look for trouble do we find it. People are human, Spirit is love. Trust in Spirit's guiding hand, and you will find the love and peace you seek, happiness follows.

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