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Who can you trust anymore?!
October 14, 2008
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WOW! I just found out that one of my coworkers, who claims to be my friend, has been talking some really really bad stuff about me. Now normally this wouldn't surprise me because every work environment has gossip and needless, senseless drama, the thing that surprises me is she is soooo nice to my face and always seems so genuinely concerned about me and my little one!!!!

All I can say is wow. It would be one thing if she wasn't nice to me and just straight up told me she didn't like me. Oh well, live and learn as they say. I am learning every day who I can and cannot trust. The sad thing is, there's more I cannot trust than there is that I can.

Why can't people just mind their own business, come to work and hey if you make some friends great and if not so be it, but don't be as nice as can be to someone's face and then go talk about them in a very vindictive, nasty way. Not okay with me.
It's almost as if Im being judged, and noone has the right to judge anyone!!!!!

Thank you all for being trustworthy and for this site !!!! I feel as if I really know and trust alot of you on here!!!! I hope it's not just me being nieve !!! :o)

October 14, 2008
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Someone once told me an old Chinese proverb:

If someone gossips to you they will gossip about you…………

I have found this to be so true, with friends, family, co-workers you name it. I have a good friend but don’t trust her worth a dam so I just make sure I don’t share more then I should with her.

At my current job I also keep things very business like and don’t talk about to much personal things with my co-workers, general topics and that’s it. I was once asked a very personal question by a co-worker and I simple said “I don’t discuss my personal life at the office”. I think she was taken back by that but a while later she expressed that it was a good practice and she wished she had practiced that from day one.

Giggles always trust yourself and that trust will guild you about others.

Atalose

~~Hope has a place, but not above reality~~

October 14, 2008
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Giggles

My Grandpa always said trust no one suspect everyone. Not the best way to make friends, but a good way to stay safe at work.

I usually do not tell anyone at work anything that I dont care if others know.

October 14, 2008
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((((Giggles))))

I am right there with ya hun. But I very much like atlose siad, "always trust yourself and that trust will guild you about others." It really isn't about trusting others it is about trusting yourself enough to know that you will be OK when something happens.

If you do not mind my asking how did you learn that she was talking really bad stuff about you?

You said, "noone has tthe right to judge anyone" Preach it sista! I couldn't agree more.

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October 15, 2008
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(((((PreciousG)))) That's right, I will keep saying, Nobody has the right to judge anybody else!!!!!
I found out because the person she told the "really nasty stuff" to told me. She felt I should know so that I can just be careful around her now. I never go into detail about my personal life here at work.
I try really hard to keep it seperate. Every once in awhile I will have a bad day but other than that not a whole lot of people know about my personal issues.

It just really shocked me because this girl will act like she's truly concerned and cares. She even offered me some great advice a time or two.

Oh well. Live and learn as I say. All I do know is my gut has NEVER lied to me!! My instinct is pretty strong and has never failed me. I know I can trust it and myself! I am paying no attention to the he said, she said at work. Unless I hear it from the horses mouth it has no validation as far as Im concerned.
And people can talk about me all they want, I don't care! I know what's in my heart and who I am. They will not shake me or get me involved in the senseless drama. I will stick to my values and morals and let it roll off my shoulder, and take it with a grain of salt as they say.

Thanks for all your responses!!!!

October 15, 2008
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It is so hard sometimes to not let people get to you. In the end it is you that has to live with your self not anyone else.

October 15, 2008
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(((( Giggles, Giggles, Giggles ))))

See? I told you I like your name!!!

Girl, I swear we are riding the same falling star! Yesterday we were having a BLAH day, and today we are having trust issues with someone! Mine is with my mother in law. And it really torques me!

I have been taking care of her for the last two years, gradual at first, now a lot! We put her in an assisted living complex last month, but I still answer her daily calls, take her to her appointments, her Dr.s, her favorite stores,get a bite to eat when she gets a' hankering ', pick her up to go for ice cream, etc.

So, day before yesterday, I take her to her new Dr. who refuses to give a cort. shot for pain, and gives her a prescription for a new med. She is allergic to many things and so when calling her yesterday to see how she was, she said she did not take it. I then asked if it would make her feel better if I came to pick her up and she could stay here for a day or two as she sees how she will respond. " Great!"

All is well....Till today, when I come down stairs and ' all is well ' comes to a screeching halt! I find her going through our private papers! Now, we do NOT leave out our things which means she went snooping! I watch her for about 2 min.'s, then she looks over her shoulder to see if the coast is still clear...OOOPPPPS! It's NOT!
The reasons and excuses were many. Like, " I just want to make a payment or two on one of your bills". We don't need any help. I asked her if that were true why she did not just ASK us. " OH, NO! That's too embarrassing!" Really!!!! For who? And its more embarrassing then to be caught snooping through someones things? Hey, this is NOT the medicine cabinet where you find who's using stool softener and Preparation H!!! SPIT, SPIT, SPIT!!!!! I am MAD!!!

I think if the trust issue hadn't risen from the dead as of late, I could have just spit once and let it go. But this just put a left handed spin on my day.

So, shall we see who or what tomorrow brings? LOL....I hope you and your daughter have a GREAT evening! Hugs to you!

October 15, 2008
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AHHHH, the gossip and drama queens of the office....(((giggles)) yes, it sucks thinking this girl was your pal, then stabs you in the back with
awful words behind your back.

Well, its good that you know now, and yes, some people put on the happiest faces, the sweetest smiles, and BAM, they throw you under the bus.

Like alot of others above said, I too, don't give out too much personal info about myself, cuz unfort. in the world world, yep there is a whole lotta gossiping going on.

((((hugs your way Giggles))))

camer

October 15, 2008
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I think i am in the same boat also of not trusting people.
I hate telling anyone anything about what is going on.

October 15, 2008
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((((Pilot_Tress))))~ That's why we are aac friends & on this site :o) I am glad we are NOT alone in this. WOW to catch your mother in law snooping, that's not good. However, I think that you handled it very well. Good job!!!! I don't know that I would've been able to stay calm, that kind of stuff infuriates me! Total breech of privacy, and how rude since you have done nothing but take care of her!

((((Camer)))))~ I have learned yes, and now am aware of certain things that I have never paid attention to before. I will do my job, and then go home. I should be flattered that they think of me and think Im worth talking about :o) Hahahaha! How are you these days?

((((Care Bear))))~ I know how hard it is to trust people, but you have opened up a bit here and that's definetly a start. :o)

October 15, 2008
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It is actually a very big step for me, opening up on here. I am really glad I found this site.

October 15, 2008
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giggles...I am doing great for today...still pounding the pavement looking for "that job"...but i know soon enough I will find one, even in this bad economy. You have such a good positive uplifting personality, and don't let that "fake friend" of yours get to you, and yes, its so true about them thinking about you so much that she has to talk about you.......arrrrrrg, 'what comes around goes around" and she will get hers someday.

And Care Bear, yes this site is wonderful, feel free to open up anytime about anything, cuz the people here are "anonymous" so its all good!!

(((camer)))

October 15, 2008
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I am really trying to open up on this site. But i think it will take couple days before I fully open up. I just have to take my own time and realize that nothing I say will come back at me. Hopefully that will happen soon for me, because once I fully open up who knows what could happen next, becuase I have never fully opened up.

October 15, 2008
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((((Camer)))) I am glad you are staying positive and not giving up on your job search!!!!! You will find something, when it's right for you :o) This economy is horrible, but don't give up !!!!! Persistence pays off, and so does a positive attitude, PLUS it's contagious :o)

October 15, 2008
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(((((Care Bear))))) Don't feel rushed by any means, take your time. When the time is right for you, you will open up. Just know that this is a safe place for you to do so. Nobody is here to judge you, they don't have the right to anyway!!!!
We are all on here because we all are dealing with our own issues.

October 15, 2008
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I promise that when I feel that it is time to open up I will. I have to open up some where in my life time. I feel that this site can really help me, get through some of the really hard times that I am going through right now.

October 15, 2008
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((((Care Bear))))~ Again, just take your time!!!!! When you are ready to open up, you can :o) @--]-----

October 15, 2008
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Okay, I will take my time in opening up. I am glad someone understands that it takes time.

October 15, 2008
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Yes it does take time! BUT again you have taken that first step.

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