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July 19, 2006
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EM~ (just getting home from work - it's the am.)

Just a thought: Ok is your screen name 'emphcfr' representing all your past relationships because if it is, than mine would e...jmbdrjdsjdftjrbr & just maybe it will end, for now, with t!

And isn’t that the truth about how some ‘words’ and some ways of saying something generally has the under tone to mean a sexual thing?

Your quote: “you mean that i can use caring words, and suggest all type of hugs and kisses and not be mistaken for a lesbian. i just want my affection to be taken as that, and nothing more.”

Once again I can relate as their has been a few times on the NC thread when someone has said something that just made me feel oh so good inside that I just want to yell from the bottom of my heart- ‘I LOVE GUYS’ or maybe in response to someone’s post- ‘god, do I love you!’ Now these are all women, and with me just so happening to love those men- that when I’m feeling inside has nothing to do a sexual nature. However I have refrained from doing so because of not knowing how it would be taken so I just say, “Thank You, Thank You!” It means just the same to me but my first response is always wanting to say…”I just love you all!”

Got to share this real quick—I was in a meeting with very professional man- in his position he has a lot of power and uses that power bEAUTifully. As he was talking to me saying something that I wished more people like him would feel inside-in my excitement I blurted out: “I LOVE YOU!!- YOU’RE AWESEOME!” Because I kinda rattled him a bit with my ‘LOVE YOU’, actually threw him off a bit, I’ve learned to be careful just who I now say that to in my excitement. Now when someone says that to me- I totally understand we’re their coming from.

Hugs & Kisses- I think that is the most positive, warm, affectionate way for a woman to address another woman or women. I’ve seen many a women sign off using that- or using that as greeting and just think to myself… “What a happy- affectionate person…” It’s not my style but it sure does give me a good feeling when others us that. It’s what they feel- and I feel that- Kind of like warm fuzzys!

Still not getting to your issue here but its coming….just wondering here if your ‘relationship issue’ along with what pamrick- & P&L have posted would make for a great new thread. I know that I have ‘ just a little bit’ to say and would love to dissect your post with ya as well with others. I think relationship issues are one HUGE reason many of us have found their way here. I would JUST LOVE to be apart of that thread. Just a thought. I think there may be alot to learn within your post.

I need to get some sleep!!

July 19, 2006
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pamrick~ This is exactly what I am now going for and coming to the understanding..."The give and take of a two sided relationship is so much more fun and nourishing to your soul." Myself, I haven't quite experienced that yet!

P&L~ isn’t it amazing what we can learn about ourselves over time when we set out to do so? I am just NOW, like in the last 24 hrs thinking about how I have soooo lacked boundaries. In fact that word for me know is actually going to be apart of my vocab. When people would talk about ‘boundaries’ I really had no clue what they are that meant. Because I didn’t know that I could have boundaries, mine, if I even had any, were so so violated.

July 19, 2006
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oh just another light bulb moment for me: "I get to do that"- I get to have boundaries!! god do I just love whoever passed that on.

July 19, 2006
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wow, lovinglife i think that could be a thread in itself as well...boundaries.

and yeah i'll be up for creating a thread on relationships, it seems that everything i talk about it relates back to a man.

no my name is not named after the men in my life. so funny that you asked. i love it.

and P&L, i'm curious as to what your name stands for.

sorry i dont have much wisdom to spit out on this one. i feel like i'm letting you down lovinglife, such high standards i have to keep up with....:0)

i like to be considered happy, wise, intellegent, etc. cause i'm really overcompensating for how i truly feel inside..

will go there in another thread.

i forget, what is this about...oh yea

and P&L i read your post, i'll get to the question of who i am hopefully tonight after my class

well i'm off. stay well peps.

July 19, 2006
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EM~ there is absolutely no way you could let me down unless of course you removed yourself from these threads.

Remember no pressure- no pressure- no pressure - you are feel to be YOU here- you don’t owe anyone anything- its about taking care of you, its about your recovery, about your growth. If along the way your insight, your wisdom helps out another poster- thats just a bonus. But remember its all about YOU.

Say, are you in the states or overseas?

July 20, 2006
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Been coming here a couple of years now. Over time, found people with similar problems, interests, situations etc. and have just sort of kept in touch. I feel they are my friends to the point that I really wish I could meet some and have a chat on the phone. I came here when I was depressed, had just had surgery, and nothing much to do but play on the computer. Have found a lot of wisdom on here and have enjoyed most of the personalities I've come in coontact with. Try it out and see if you don't feel connections after a time. Bangles

July 20, 2006
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EM! Where are you?? I'm here caressing your arm- sending hugs your way... come back, come back... now I am just being desparate!! But I need you! I miss you!!

Hope all is well- and your just taking a break which I think I need as well. Hey- a boundaries thread was started... looks like I won't be taking a break anytime soon!

July 20, 2006
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lovinglife..no i'm here. and i'm sneaking a couple of minutes while a guest is here to write.

thanks...it's all about me. i get to remember that and hold that close to me.

i'm in a position of not knowing what to do. ooops. so i'm not on the computer much, but hopefully tomorrow i'll have time to make it here for a bit.

why would you think i'm anywhere else other than in the states?

p&L i'll get back to your question soon. i want time to really dedicate to it.

all about me...

me.

July 20, 2006
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EM~ my states question- there are a few in here that are overseas- its actually in some ways a complement to you as to why I would ask.

Glad your still around- I have this major abandonment issue! Just kidding. Hell sometimes I wish that WAS my problem- no I like to push people away from me or not let others get too close. Working on it all here.

Have a great day!

November 8, 2006
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give this a bump up for Asute

November 8, 2006
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I'm just me. I have just been told that I am a firecracker and yes I probably am. I have been abuse since I was a child, I have no self esteem, I deal with anxiety and panic attacks, deppression, ptsd, etc. I'm not askin for anyones pity just an explination. I'm on meds and in counseling. I am trying to hold on to hope. I am 31 and I have two children that live with their dad and visit me every other weekend. Before you ask no I have never abused my children and no I did not abandon them, their dad was and still is the better parent and we both decided that it was better off for them to live with them, it was the hardest decision I ever had to make but the right one. I'm new here and hoping to find help and healing and hope....

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