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Where to start to help alcoholic's family
June 11, 2006
8:03 pm
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My sister is married to an untreated alcoholic man in denial. About 15 years ago I asked her if she thought her husband was alcoholic (she was pregnant at the time)and she had a fit. I was afraid something would happen to the baby, so I stopped talking about it. She cried terribly and was shaking and then left. Now I see her family suffering because of the effects of the alcohlism and nothing is being done. Her husband has become emotionally abusive to her and the children. I guess I don't know how to handle this. The rest of the family (no one else has an addiction problem) just says nothing and acts like we can't do anything and they just want to stay out of their business even though they don't like what they see. It is making me nuts. I am single and am around them the most. I probably know the most about addictions and dysfunctional behavior because of the type of work that I do; but not enough to know how to start to try to get them to see they need help without seeming like a know it all as I am not a counselor. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. I do not want to call any agencies for personal reasons. Thank you.

June 11, 2006
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You might try suggesting Al-Anon to your sister. Tell her that by suggesting this, does not mean you are suggesting that she leave her husband. But just a great place for her to be able to relate to others in her shoes.

Just a thought...

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June 12, 2006
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Thank you Jenni, I know she will say she does not have time for Al-Anon, she is going crazy as it is as she has most of the responsibility for the hours and the kids. Her husbands complains almost constantly about everything so she is constantly trying to keep him from complaining. She works full time too and has health problems to boot. I also think she will be mad. She never talks about her husband drinking too much to me. I think she thinks its none of my business she this is very tricky. During the week she stays up almost every night helping her daughter with her homework, sometimes until 2:30 in the morning. Then she has to get up for work at 4:30 am. I think she will be resistant to the suggestion because of this, but I will think about suggesting that. I will probably be banned/snubbed as they will be mad at me. I could handle this, but I really don't want it to happen. Any more suggestions out there? (that means you too, Jenni). Thanks so much

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