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March 14, 2004
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well it jus doenst feel like i can cope ( my thread is " how can i stop loving someone who doesnt love me " )

its soo hard to go to skool and look at her and talk to her online and in school. i can only describe it as being in a deep hole with black unclimbable holes the floor is sinking and its getting darker insed the walls are closing in untill the squeeze the life out of me.

March 14, 2004
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Dear LSP

Remember.... "it is always darkest before the dawn"....

Try not to focus solely on this one girl... I know its hard, but some girl maybe feeling the same way about you. Love will come up and find you when & where you least expect it. Hang in there... I'm sure you've heard these before:

all things in good time

there is a time & place for everything

if you love something, set it free....

In Jr. High I thought I was so ugly that no boy would want to date me in HS. I was picked on & tormented by the other girls.... Know what? I had a boyfriend freshman year! Know something else? I'll never forget him either. You will always love your first love... Gets you prepared for the rest of them to follow. Keep your eyes open - someone maybe giving you those loving eyes right now & you can't see it. Want another tidbit? My hubby & I were HS sweethearts. We broke up for 6 months... um, I should confess I dumped him to be truthful b/c he has too clingy. I felt smothered. We stayed friends though & that gave us a good foundation to build from. We got back together (obviously) & now have two kids.

Take it easy - when its meant to be, it will be...

March 15, 2004
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i know what u mean by me being too young to be in a serious relationship cos if i did go out with emma and we split it would hurt me soooooo much and it wouldnt las a life time. but that doesnt stop me loving her. part of the problem is i would be to embarrassed to talk to my familly about it id love to go and see a councellor but it would cost money my familly would pay for it but as i siad i can ask them. plus they would end up finding out. my freinds all know they try to help me but it doenst work. i want to get anti depressants but my freinds have pointed out i would rely on them to be happy and i might never know true happiness again if i took them. i just cant cope anymore

March 17, 2004
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well it seems to me like she doesnt like me very much but she says she does. and the fact that she fancies a mate of mine is rather depressing

March 18, 2004
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i havent talked to my mum yet and i dont think i can. she said if me or my bro have any problems even girl problems we can tlk to her about it but id be too embarresed i dont know why but i would be.

u said about her seeing it as funny that im chasing after her. im beggining to agree. last night she asked ME to tell my mate that she " likes " him even tho she knows how i feel. i jus dont know wether she wanted to hurt me or not. i dont know what to do .

March 20, 2004
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my bro is younger.

and im not sure wether she is makin fun of me cos sometimes shes really nice to me and then sometimes , quite rarely, she does stuff like that. im rather depressed now, more than usual cos ive realised i aont got a chance of being her partner and im giving up trying so its gettin to me now cos ive realised ill never be able to hug her or go out at night to places with her or anything like that wich is rather upsetting to me

March 20, 2004
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I remember being 14-15... As I recall, I did some pretty stupid things without meaning to... If she does these things rarely, maybe she just hasn't put thought into it about how you'll feel. Not meanly, just not thinking. If it upsets you so to be around her, sad as it may be... it might be for your best interest to walk separate paths for a while. "If you love something, set it free..." I know it hurts. I remember crying my eyes and heart out on more than one occassion "why doesn't he love me?" "what did I do wrong?" As time has gone by, I realize what happens helps you get ready for the next thing to come along in life. To prepare you. You have this wonderful, tremendous feeling for her... don't you want someone who has this same feeling for you? It will happen - in time - probably, most definitely, more than once.... Hang in there. Everyone goes thru what you are feeling at some point in their life (otherwise we'd all marry the first person we're attracted to). Try to involve yourself in some activity to help take your mind off your troubles. All will be well...

March 21, 2004
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Juanita...so how does one get thru the times when they feel like they will never have that bond with another person. that this was as good as it could get?

March 21, 2004
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well im actually undecided to wat mood i should be in 2day. last night i sent emma a text sayin dat i did t love her anymore. i did it cos love was gettin in the way ofour freindship. her mate nicola told me that emma read it and said i was gonna give him a chance aswell. i asked nicola if emma fancies me she said ye hi think so . but have i ruinned it by sayin i didnt love her? this may be my big break atlast

March 21, 2004
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JJ1199 - have faith. All teenagers feel the same emotions of love & rejection at some point. Try to find the good that came from the experience - even if that "good" is just the realization you can care that deeply. Love will come around again, and probably more heartaches too. With each person you meet, who means a lot to you, you live and learn and grow from them. You learn more about yourself. What you what in a relationship, and what you don't. Also learn about yourself and what you could do better ... For example (on a teasing note) try not to belch in front of a girl, or make "unusual" body noises... that's a real turnoff! (I never wanted to be seen with the guy who farted in public ever again - ew!! LOL Learned that nite, didn't want that!)

Lovesick - Emma needs to make up her mind. You may want to keep your distance for now. How will things be if she tosses your mate for you? And then still can't decide? Emma may not be ready for a serious relationship yet. True love does wait you know... don't rush, keep your cool, if it is meant to be - it will be because true love never dies... crushes on the other hand become fond & tender memories that bring a smile when looked upon after the heartache goes away. Your first "love" will always be in your memory. At age 36, I still remember Dennis with love and affection... and we dated when we were 15. Cried my eyes out for days when it didn't work. Didn't have another BF for like 6 months. But I did have another, & another, & another. They all had good qualities, so did I, but we weren't perfect matches.... so we moved on until we found the right ones for us.

Remember too, both of you... the Right One will love you for you, will not ask you to make radical changes, they will meld into your life very naturally. You will become extensions of one another, and be one another's best friend. This joy and happiness is the reward for going thru the heartache of breakups all the times before.

You will find the loves of your lives. Don't rush... it will come. Have faith.

March 21, 2004
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Teenage love and passion is so wonderful, and dramatic (like a roller coaster, ups, downs, hair pin turns, loop-de-loops, and feeling like you are lifted off your seat)... Age mellows the passions till they are ripe and rich... love remains love. I know we all search for love & I remember well the heartache I felt when things didn't work out. Cried many nites thinking no one would ever love me or find me attractive, but, now I have a wonderful husband who is all I ever dreamed of. We were high school sweethearts too - BUT we also took our time.... dated FIVE YEARS! Looking back now - at 21 I was so anxious to leave home & set up house ... if we'd been a little smarter - we could have post-poned the wedding another year so as to save more money up. It would not have been a big deal... We saw one another every day (just didn't spend the nites together). Things have worked out well for us though... but it takes a lot of work, commitment, and compromise....

March 21, 2004
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ps - Twinks, thanks for the compliment... sometimes I wonder if what I have to offer makes a difference.

March 22, 2004
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well im back to my normal self now she doesnt love me all a mistake. rather depressed again. i know the right person wil come along eventually but im not capable of loving anyone except emma. i see all these lovely girls one or 2 even fancy me but even tho they are beautiful and kind i cant love them. i do fancy another girl she fancies me too but she lives too far away and i wouldnt go out with her cos i love emma and i cant love another girl enough to date them. also i think e,mma may feel uneasy around me and doesnt like me much so to be honest..i see no way out

March 22, 2004
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Ah, Lovesick... time will ease the pain you are feeling right now. Try to concentrate on other things that give you pleasure instead of thinking of Emma.... sports, music, reading, computer games... You have to be willing to let go though. Can't get her out of your thoughts if you don't choose to. Maybe in a couple weeks - being open to friendship with one of those other girls may seem nice. One can never have too many friends eh? and remember this too... Everything in life is a choice. We may not like our choices, but we can choose how to handle and react to them. You have no choice in that Emma does not share the same emotions for you as you do for her. You can choose, though, whether to go about and do things that will make you happy (get on with life so to speak), or do remain in the bummed out status. Personally, I would not let Emma see you bummed for too long. Living well is the best revenge afterall... Do not let someone else control your life in such a way... even less, someone who doesn't love you.

I have been there my friend. Yes, it is terrible feeling this way. Vent your frustration (cry, yell, pound a pillow or punching bag), and GO OUT AND HAVE SOME FUN! Talk to those girls... who knows what will happen? You have an AMAZING life ahead of you - full of adventure, romance, (yes-heartache too, that's how you get to have more than one romance), and a life time of learning.

Hang in there, what you are going thru is natural, and a part of growing.

March 23, 2004
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well ive bin thinking of starting to do sport and one of my mates has a freind who likes sport and might like me too so im starting to move on abit though had a remninder of my mate daniel and emma cos i think theyll go out 2gether soon

March 23, 2004
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Moving on.... sounds like the right idea LSP. Have fun, play sports. Don't worry about the girls. When you are not looking, that's when something will happen that will flip your lid...

Your friend Daniel.... how's things going with him? It's hard to find a good & lasting friend. Don't let a girl come between you & your mates. Girlfriends can come & go, but best bud's are hard to come by.

Be well... have some fun...

Juanita

March 24, 2004
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well ive always liked the idea of doing karate plus it would give me confidence if i ever did get in a fight and it would take my mind off of things. my bros have been going 4 about 3 weeks now but i dont know if id be able to join in their group or not

March 24, 2004
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I agree - karate sounds cool. win-win situation. You learn discipline, confidence, how to protect yourself should the need arise, and girls really dig guys who can protect THEM if the need arises.... even if it never does - having the ability is impressive (you've demonstrated the ability to stick to things & girls like guys who can commit to things).

Wishing you well!
Juanita

March 25, 2004
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well i protect any girl if i have to thats how i have made an enemy lol.

seems fun too

March 25, 2004
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being strong and confident is a major rush.... for yourself as well as ANY loved one... (your parents will be proud as well as any girlfriend)

have fun - work hard - play hard (responsibly though - no drinking or drugs - had to say that)

I am happy you are doing and feeling better.... keep in touch!

March 26, 2004
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yeh i am feeling better . also the fact that dan keeps being nasty to emma so im pretty sure they wont go out.

March 28, 2004
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well my bros are gonna ask their karate trainer about me joining and my other stepbro said he will too if i go so i might be goin wednesday yay !

March 28, 2004
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Yay! I hope you all get to join and have a great time together.... Pretty soon you will be sparring one another and rough housing... Have lots of fun!

March 29, 2004
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yep my step bro aint goin now but i still am. im probably gonna sign up tonight when my other bros go maybe ill be able to start tonight but if not ill start wednesday. and now im thinking of doin karate for a couple of years to train up then going judo.

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had my first lesson half hour ago it was great didnt think about anything other than karate and its gonna get me fit. am gld you suggested it

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