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WHEN IT'S OVER, WILL IT REALLY BE OVER?
October 17, 2006
11:49 pm
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santino
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Shes going to leave and ZI'll never see her again.

Shes going to leave thinking I hate her.

Shes going to leave with no goodbyes and good luck between the 2 of us.

We were best friends, lovers, and it had a bitter end.

Im almost 30 years old, I have 2 kids and I'm divorced, I should have learned these lessons 10 years ago.

Will I be able 2 live with myself if it ends this way?

If she comes in 2 my restautant should I say anything, I'm in such a hard spot, I just want this all 2 be over soon.

October 18, 2006
1:45 am
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about your question...it probably is... BUT, you never know. time goes by, people change, you change, who knows, you might reconnect with each other at a later date.

I keep hoping that will happen with me and xbf. to meet each other at a different time of our lives...it makes it more bearable.

as she is going away, would it make YOU feel better to call her and wish her well? to give YOURSELF closure? just a thought. It might help you move one if you can say good by.

sorry that you are still in pain, it doesn't seem to go away, contact or no contact.

take care.

October 18, 2006
2:19 am
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Hi Santino

Sometimes it has to end this way. Closure and moving on sometimes don't happen when there is interaction.

If she comes in to your restaurant, I'd give a warm welcome and a drink on the house. Sort of a "yeah, things ended rough, we had to go our separate ways, but you're always in my thoughts and I wish you well" type of a thing.

No need to carry a grudge. Breakups hurt all involved, enough hurt has already occurred.

hopefully she won't think you hate her. But I think you have to let that go, for now, until you cross paths again. And you will.

It's better to have loved and lost Santino. ya know?

I've watched your posts for a while.

Seems time to let go, and let be.

free

October 18, 2006
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santino - I'd rather regret something that I did, rather than something I didn't do. Call her and smooth things over. Just wish her well and let her know that you don't harbor any hard feelings. Leave it at that and move on. There's nothing wrong with making amends. Amend the situation without going into a big drawn out drama. Don't dig up the past... just bid well wishes and a farewell. Good luck. This is just another opportunity to learn a life lesson... take it.

October 18, 2006
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If you feel so strongly about letting her go without making amends, then I say let her know one last time but with the intention that you wish her well and good luck but not use the opportunity to give it that one last ditch effort to get her back. Because if you do that, you would be setting yourself up for hurt and you have hurt enough. SOmetimes in life we do not always get the chance to leave a relationship without making amends. Sometimes it really is a hole that might never be filled. It does fade though. Your feelings will fade in time. This is a hard time for you because this time you truly do have to let go. But in doing so, your heart will be open again someday for someone that will not hurt you so bad and will accept you the way you are, your children, and you WILL learn to love again. Give yourself lots of encouragement and most of all have strength. Life is about lessons and lessons are hard no matter what your age is. You are not done yet, nor will you ever be. You are 30, and have a lot going ahead for you. Most of all have lost some type of love and boy does it hurt like the devil but it is your love and it is deep loss and with time you will recover from it. Just give it time. Someone will come along and recognize what a big heart you do have. But you have to mourn the loss first. You will be fine.

October 18, 2006
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THANKS ALL, i THINK i'M GOING TO WRITE HER A LETTER AND READ IT OVER, AND IF IT SOUNDS GOOD AND IF IT MAKES ME FEEL BETTER, ILL GIVE IT TO HER. i JUST THINK i NEED TO GET ALL MY FEELINGS ON PAPER.

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