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when is too much?
September 29, 2008
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soconfused3
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how do i know how often to be with my boyfriend, and when he needs his own space? i know i need my own time sometimes and so does he. but if it was up to me i would be with him 24/7 which cant be healthy for either of us. i want him to want to be with me and i dont want to hang out with him too much..?

September 29, 2008
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I understand where you are coming from. In all of my relationships I wanted to be with my partners 24/7. I just had to and this is apart of my codependency that I am working on but its kind of hard now since i am single

With you still being in a relationship it will be easier for you manage and work on.

I wish i had some advice to give but i don't. Everyone does need there space and time. Like the saying. " absense does make the heart grow fonder" .

Maybe you could set up some "you" time a couple of times a week. Go out to dinner or get coffee with a friend. And when your parnter wants to go and do things with his friends let him and take it as his time.

I never did this with my X and now i see that is was something that proabably tore us apart.

good luck!

September 30, 2008
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thanks lostagain27, its nice to know i am not the only one! i want to work on this now before i am with him "too much". i think trying to do things for my self is a really good idea.

the thing is when i am not with him i am thinking about him!! but i am going to try and give both of us some space...

September 30, 2008
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yes i understand this all to well. When i wasn't with my X's they were all i thought about. what they were doing, were they missing me, were they thinking of me. It was really obsessive. To me i thought this was normal but apprently it isn't i guess. I don't know haven't figured that out yet but i know i obessed to much.

I think if you work on spending time with yourself then things will go really well.

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