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when do you stop playing grown up and become one?
January 14, 2006
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My head is spinning. i am overwhelmed with responsibility. I feel like I am playing grown up and just keep hoping no one finds out.

January 14, 2006
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What's up, Cpt?

January 14, 2006
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oh, well just life. i have started working in a newly created department at work and i just started grad school and even though i don't live with my 2 teenage nephews i support them financially and am their primary emotional support. I had parent-teacher conferences yesterday and even though it has been 10yrs since i was in high school it seems so odd to be the "parent" talking to the teachers. my oldest nephew is an over-achieving joy and my youngest in 6th grade is having a hard time--they have had a violent and unstable past and the youngest is high functioning autistic and this transition yr. into jr. high is not going well. I am very frustrated with the school and have been working all week to coordinate the school, his mom, his therapist and psychologist so that he gets what he needs to be succesfull. i thought things would get easier as they go older but it hasn't and the responsibility and the influence i have in their lives and there need for attention scares the hell out of me. i hope every day that i doing this right. on top of all of this i am trying to set boundaries and for the first time in my life take care of myself--sounds easy, but is harder than i imagined. i took today off work just so i could get a few of the need-to's done around my house before i drowned in chaos.

wow that felt good to get that out! thanks for asking

January 14, 2006
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You have taken on a lot of responsibility for one so young. I am 42 and feel totally overwhelmed at times too. Sometimes just the thought of all you have to cope with and acheive in a day can be daunting. The trick is just acheive one thing at a time. If you don't get everything done, be proud of what you did achieve.

January 14, 2006
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feline,

yes, i am trying to look at what i have accomplished instead of what i have not--it is something i have to remind myself to do. i am making lists and sticking to them. thanks for the support

January 14, 2006
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Hi Cpt: Yes, you do have a lot on your plate. But you must be motivated to do it, and when accomplishments are made, you can be proud of yourself. We discussed the role of aunt before, as you responded to me when I posted about my niece.

She just recently got into therapy after my nudging and suggesting. My mother finally got fed up w/ the school system, thinking the help she needed would naturally flow thru the system. The teachers were not motivated to do any more than necessary so mom started making a little noise, and things started to progress.

You'll probably run into some roadblocks w/ your nephew as well. Its very frustrating when you are led to believe that efforts will be made and they are not.

With so much on your plate, its necessary to be oragnized and sounds like you've got that under control. Sounds like you'll be squeezing as much into every day as you can. But- grad school will be over some day and you'll be glad you made the effort.

You'll get there. As they say, one day at a time. SD

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