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May 30, 2007
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Hey everyone,

I need some input regarding a girl I just met.

Last night after work I stopped by the local book store to purchase a book. I already had the book put aside for me and went to the front counter to just pick it up and pay for it. The girl at the front counter was extremely cute. I started talking to her while completing the transaction when I realized that she is not only cute but very intelligent. I told myself I cannot just walk out of the store and later on regret not trying to get to know her.

Making the story short, I wanted to ask her out on a date. However, since she was at the front counter there were a lot of people around and I did not have the guts to simply ask. I asked her for a piece of pen and paper and I wrote on the paper

"You seem like a very intelligent girl, I would love to get to know you better. Would you mind grabbing a cup of coffee with me sometime?" and I drew a smiley face at the bottom of the piece of paper. I returned to the counter and put it on the counter. She looked at it and blushed, then looked up and said "Perhaps". I smiled and asked her if she is going to make me wait till the store closes and she said that would not be fair. I asked her for her phone number and she said that she will give it to me if I show up to the store again when she is working. I asked her "you promise" and she said yes. I shook her hand and asked her when she will be working next. Then I said good night and walked to my car.

Anyways, is she just playing with me? I am debating if I should go back tonight and she will actually give me her phone number or am I in a surprise?

I honestly don't think she was the type to simply mess with me. But who knows. After the events with my ex-girlfriend I really don't want another girl messing with me. What should I do?

May 30, 2007
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She sounded serious because she wasn't forthcoming the first time. What is the worst that can happen if you go vs. regretting and wondering if you don't???

I think a cup of coffee would be a nice way to meet and get to know each other.

Good luck!

May 30, 2007
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Hey Antagonist-

I think you oughta go for it. What have you got to lose?

May 30, 2007
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Anta...way to go! I don't know if she is serious or not but I'd say you are off to a good start. I'd say go tomorrow not today. Too soon:). Let her wonder if you'll come back:). It would definitely intrigue me. I'd probably do the same thing she did if I was her. let us know what happens..

May 30, 2007
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I think you should go back but like fantas said wait a day. Sounds like she may be acting cautious to see if you really do come back for her number. I bet she is wondering the same things you are wondering right now. Good luck.

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May 31, 2007
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go back to that store!!! she sounds like she is being cautious, and even told you to come back....go for it & enjoy the coffee & chat with her!!!

May 31, 2007
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Antagonist, I see a lot of positive signs in your interaction with her. I guess there is only one way to find out if she is interested. Good job in not letting an opportunity pass you by.

May 31, 2007
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I say go for it.

She may get requests like this and is trying to weed out those that are serious and those that aren't.

So, if you show up, you are showing a sincere interest...and you may get her phone number then.

What have you got to lose? You already put yourself out there with the note...follow thru.

The worst that can happen is that nothing will happen, the best is you get another date!!!!!!!!! WOOHOO good luck!

May 31, 2007
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That's a really exciting situation. As long as you are single and available why not get to know her better. What happened with your ex-girlfriend? Perhaps you should go in with a single Rose and give it to her with your phone number attached to it.

May 31, 2007
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maybe a rose is too much too soon? how about a carnation or a daisy.

It's different...not the same old cliche....plus roses have such a strong meaning, while carnations or daisies have a more subtle meaning...more about getting to know you and friendship.

May 31, 2007
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Ladies and Gents, I am sure everyone is intrested in finding out what happened =P

I ended up going to the bookstore again after work. I just could not wait till tomorrow night. I think I need to work on that whole patience thing haha. Anyways it was so unreal when I walked in the bookstore cause as soon as I walked in I saw someone I could not believe.

I moved to the United States approximately 9 years ago and I ended up seeing my first teacher. She was my ESL teacher. Last year I went to visit her but she was not at school so I assumed she probably retired. Anyways she could not believe how much I have changed in 9 years. She told me while I was in highschool one of my english teachers tracked her down and sent her one of my essays to show how much I have improved. I was surprised how much she rememberd me and that she was still teaching. She was trully a great teacher, I mean I learned english in two months and was able to go to a normal class so I assume it had something to do with her.

Anyways, while I was talking to her the other employees were listening to me and my teacher and were shocked. They started asking me what majore I am studying and what school I go to and etc etc. All that while the girl I wanted her number was standing by. It was great since I am sure it probably somehow made her more intrested lol.

After I said good bye to my teacher I went and talked to the girl I had come to ask her number. There were other employees around so I started getting nervous and asked if they won't mind if I take her around one of the book shelves and talk to her in private and they said they did not mind at all.

The girl was really surprised that I came back. She apparently told all her co-workers what I did the night before and they were all surprised. I asked her for her number and she said "I don't know, now I am contemplating if you are the wierd/stalkerish type or not" I chuckled and said "do you honestly believe that? I just realized what a intelligent girl you are and did not want to pass up on an oppurtunity on getting to know you better" she ended up grabbing my hand and writing her number on the palm of my hand. I talked to her for a little bit more around the store and than said good night and left.

So now the million dollar question is...when is the right time to call?

PS.

~obsessia, you asked what happened with my ex-girlfriend. She ended up sleeping with my bestfriend. After forgiving her and getting back together nothing was the same and well long story short I ended up simply changing my phone number to get away from the girl.

May 31, 2007
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when to call? well given her stalker comment you might let it slide at least a couple of days. I mean you want to seem interested but not needy and clingy. But in the end, do what you feel is right.

May 31, 2007
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yeah, you gotta follow your gut.

But realistically, wait a day or two.

Remember a good rule of thumb - if you want plans for the weekend, always call by Wed....no later.

That way you show you are interested and putting HER first...then if she says no, you can have time to find something else to do. And it shows her that you are asking her first, instead of last minute - which makes a gal feel like she doesn't matter as much, that she is a last minute thought.

So, call her Saturday - chat, get to know her...then later in the week call her for a date.

Perhaps find out what kind of coffee she likes and drop by during the week to give her some and ask her for a weeekend date next week.

Don't rush...she looks like she is interested.

May 31, 2007
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I agree with the previous comments. You don't want to appear desparate either. Yes be honest and real, but patience is a virtue as they say. I agree with calling her on Saturday to chat, maybe ask her to do something during the week.
Good Luck to you and if it is fate, you must invite us all to your wedding (in 2009/2010)!!!!!

May 31, 2007
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Well I am definitely not going to go with my gut feeling. I have gone with my gut feeling before in other situations and I have realized that I tend to over think matters and eventually instead of doing something good I end up messing things up.

I am honestly very busy myself and pretty occupied during the week. Also this weekend I am pretty packed with different activities. I will most likely call her on Saturday and see how she is doing and ask if she is interested for coffee on Wednesday or something. Don't need to over do it. I think I am doing pretty good so far anyway =)

May 31, 2007
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Call her the very next day and ask her to lunch. Girls love lunch and it is very safe and you still have quality time. Coffee seems almost not committed enough. Go for the longer time and you will get to know each other so much more. Who knows, the date could turn into dinner.

May 31, 2007
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When I said lunch, I meant the next time you both would be available for lunch. Calling is good the next day but making a date can be anytime. There is no rush on that one.

May 31, 2007
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antagonist.

the BEST thing you can do is go with your gut.

you have a busy life - GREAT - don't change it either...don't suddenly ditch plans to spend more time with her.

that makes you a well rounded person, which creates a healthy relationship.

it's all about balance.

also, you could ask her for an mid morning coffee and if it goes well, ask her if she wants to continue with lunch.

call her after your date to tell her you had a good time...and that you will be in touch.

then call her a few days later to set sosmething up for the weekend maybe.

Don't play too eager, don't play too passive.

But sounds like you have that figured out already.

just get a grip on the impatient thing tho!!!!! (I know how hard it is)

May 31, 2007
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I agree with all those who was for it so Go for it. Good luck Antagonist!!! Keep us posted!

May 31, 2007
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I think it is very cute what you did...very creative on your part!

And maybe she said what she said to give herself time to think about an answer, because she didn't want to say yes or no.

June 1, 2007
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Thanks everyone for your opinions. Can't believe I am asking for dating advice haha.

Hopefully at least I can go on a few dates with her and just get to know her. I honestly just want to spend some time with a girl and enjoy her company.

I am finally working at a job that I like and making decent money, I want to go out with a girl and just have a good time.

June 1, 2007
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BEST to you! I agree, I think your plan to wait, call Sat. and ask her for coffee only is a great way to get to know her, vice versa, then both of you can decide if you want to go again.

This is a HAPPY story...glad you asked all for advice! 🙂

June 1, 2007
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remember, slow and steady wins the race and don't go buying the engagement ring after the first date....just kidding!

enjoy taking it slow...it's worth it.

June 1, 2007
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Anta...soooooo cute, your story!! Right out of a romance movie. Yeah, take heed to that stalker comment, she is watching you closely. Take your time. I think coffee or lunch is good for starters. Have fun with this...

June 1, 2007
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OOoh plesae keep us informed. this is fun and exciting. You are doing everything right.

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