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What's going on with me and my life???
November 23, 2000
10:19 pm
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unhappylc
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I'm 34, married with a son. I'm not very good at this so bear with me please. For a good part of my life, I have had to "put" a problem in my life that probably really didn't have to be there in the first place. At the age of 28-29, I went for an Aids test before I got married and was convinced that I had this fatal disease. So convinced, that I literally locked myself in my room for 2 weeks and would not eat. I lost a tremendous amount of weight and made my family "worry" to say the least. The results came, and I was fine. I thought it was guilt that made me worry about having aids, but as I get older, I realize there is much more to this.I started to see a shrink who told me that I needed to have a child so that I could focus on something other than myself and start being happy. Well, I had a child and then became overly obsessive about my neighbor. Again, putting a problem in my life. I literally would not leave my house in fear of having to face the neighbors and constantly complained about how I couldn't stand the sight of them to my family. This "problem" was enought to make me move out of my house and buy a new one. I am now in my new house for about 2 1/2 months, and have thus again created a doosy for myself this time. My mother in law. She know doesn't live that far from us and has decided to "pop by" whenever she feels like it. I have completely lost control of my life with this woman and will not say anything in fear of starting trouble in the family. I also truly feel that it is not my place to say anything but my husbands instead....(am I wrong for doing that??) My mom had me pegged when she said that I would create another problem when I moved to this new house. I guess she was right, but in my heart, I feel that I am right about this woman and have learned to trust my gut more often than not. I feel like I have no control anymore...I am a loner and prefer to be by myself than with people. I know that is a horrible way to be, but I want my life back with my husband and my child...is that so wrong?? What is my problem....can anyone help me figure out why I blow things out of proportion and think so much that it makes me full of anxiety??? Please help.

November 23, 2000
10:46 pm
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Well I can only say that I have done the very same thing with my inlaws. I left it up to my husband to deal with any problems with his family. Didn't always help. They also began to take advantage of the fact that I spent most of my time at home and a one time can you watch Shanel became a drop her off without even asking because they new I was home. Needless to say we moved about 40 mins away. That is not the right answer I am sure but I couldn't avoid it. I would however talk to your husband and make sure it isn't a problem and just ask if he could speak to her and have her call before she comes by. I hope I helped alittle...:)

November 24, 2000
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Hi....yes you did help....thanks for your input. Unfortunately the whole problem goes alot deeper than that and I will hopefully try to deal with it. Thanks again

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