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What the ^%$%$# is happening?
February 20, 2007
3:33 pm
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jon668
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Okay. I finally dumped crazy abusive boyfriend. A couple of weeks pasted with emails and text messages from him. Minimal response from me (I know this should read NO RESPONSE. No face to face. Then on Valentine's Day I had my first date with Derek. It was great! we laughed talked about everything...even David, the abusive ex. After I took Derek home. I returned to find David on my doorstep. I let him in.

Now another week goes by and he calls and wants to take me to a movie. I go because I do miss him and am trying my best to end this amicably. I even talked about us being broekn up and how we need to stop blurring the lines.

I still have hope but do not want to screw myself up anymore. I told him I will break this cycle. I feel like I'm being manipulated. He has begun calling my friends, emailing them, asking them out.

what do I do?

February 20, 2007
3:55 pm
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You feel like you are being manipulated because you are.
I have been there and trust me you do NOT want to do that. If you had true friends then tell then that you want nothing do do with him and you would appreciate it if they would also stop communicating with him, and STOP talking to you about him. They should be spending there time getting your mind off of him.
Why are you tring to end this well? It doesn't seem that the relationship was great, why end great?
I hope you end this soon and quick before you end up like me.

read one of my threads, _My life -like nothing you have ever heard.
I tell my story of abuse and manipulation.

No one deserves to be abused.
-student1

February 20, 2007
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Jon,

Boy sounds crazy.... You can go ahead and feel the pain now or let him continue to drag you down.

Anyone who is a friend of yours would not go out with this guy.

Move on.

Cary

February 20, 2007
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He’s an ex because he’s abusive I assume. You went to the movies with him because you were missing him, what part of the abusive relationship were you missing?

If you do not want to screw yourself up anymore, dump him, don’t allow him to keep manipulating you.

Why would you want to be with someone abusive who you left in the first place and is now using your friends against you by asking them out? How hurtful is that and you continue to talk with him because you want to end things amicably? Why??

If they are truly your friends they should also put an end to him manipulating them in order to hurt you.

Atalose

~~Hope has a place, but not above reality~~

February 20, 2007
4:29 pm
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He don't want your friends. He is just trying to get your goat. I bet when you went to the movie with him, you were acting just like the two of you are NOT together and he was mad.

If these are your friends, and you have talked to them about him, well they already know what type of person he is. He already knows that they are going to go back and tell you what he is saying. I would just let them know that you do not want to hear anything about him. And make it clear. Because I bet you, while he is talking to your friends, he is asking about you.

February 26, 2007
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I recently had a friend who was in a two year abusive relationship that almost destroyed her. He would take everything and twist it to make it seems as if she was all these horrible things, but in essence he was calling her everything that he was. He played with her mind, lied about all of her friends to drive her away from them and he totally wanted to isolate her and control her life. It was a horrible messed up nightmare. I prayed for her and soon things changed, she began to see what he was doing to destroy her in the process. He called her horrible names, accused her of cheating, told her she needed to pay for everything because she had a good job and he didn't. A controller/abuser has deep emotional rejection and they will dump all of their mental garbage on you when they are actually telling you everything that is wrong with them, making you believe your the problem. Run as fast as you can and do not respond to any communication he will try. The sad part is they will latch on to another women maybe not as strong as you and eventually destroy her. People like this are very dangerous. Love yourself enough to not look back!

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