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What should I do?
September 24, 2000
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Last night, I was in my house sleeping when I heard a loud noise coming from downstairs. I jumped up and dashed downstairs to see what was going on. In doing so, I saw three men who were looking crazy, drunk, and yelling the name "Mike" one of the other occupants in the house. I was shook up and I ran back in my room leaving the door open. I then shut the door a few seconds later. Now, my roommate and my best friend who were in the room are telling me that I am only book smart without any street smarts because of what I did. I tried explaining that it was only my instinct that I acted on, but they do not want to hear it. This morning they brought it up gain. I left and drove around for 3 hours just feeling angry. When I returned, they asked me if I was okay as if that was to make everything better. I still feel angry for the things that they said to me, and I feel bad that I could have potentially put their lives in danger. What should I do?

September 24, 2000
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You know why you did what you did, you made the only choice that you could, we can't go around second guessing our selves, now can we. they freaked out, spoke their minds, and got to be heard. Right, so its over, you don't really want to hang onto some negative thought process about this now do you? Its over, be present in the moment.

September 24, 2000
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You were probably in shock and just panicked. They were angry about the potential for danger and should not have attacked by impyling that you are not smart. Your reaction to them was probably from your own sense of guilt but don't be too hard on yourself. You learned a valuable lesson and I'm sure you'll be more careful if similar situations arise. One suggestion! Call the police! 🙂

September 25, 2000
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I don't understand what it is that your friends thought was dangerous?
could you elaborate?
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September 25, 2000
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Hazza,

What they thought was so dangerous about the situation was that I ran out of the room leaving the door open and they could have potentially been in danger. But, I only ran out on instinct, because the commotion startled me. What they failed to understand was that I was just panicked and reacted. Now, we are not talking to eachother.

September 25, 2000
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Well then, they are silly judgemental people.
your reaction was totally normal. If you hear a noise you naturally want to know what is happening.
Do not let these two people bully you over this. You did what your instincts told you to do - no one was harmed end of story.
these girls are using this as an excuse to have a dig at you. I think maybe they are jealous of your intelligence and used this to try to make you feel stupid.
What if you had gone out and witnessed some crime being committed by these intruders? then you would have been in the perfect position to tell the police all you saw and you would be the hero right now wouldn't you?
All these other people did was to sit back and say " well as long as I am okay - I don't care what is happening to my fellow roomates"
you cared enough to find out what was going on.
tell these girls that enough is enough - you do NOT have to justify your reaction to ANYONE, least of all them. Tell them that they have every right to think what they like of you - but they have told you now so time to let it drop. Youc aould also ask them to tell you how they think that if there WAS any danger, how was a door gonna protect them.
Survival instinct alone would make most people try to find their way OUT of a room. The way THEY acted would be to just be sitting ducks and that quite frankly HAD there been a situation, it would be the fact that they STAYED in the room that would most likey be their downfall rather than the door being open.
This sounds to me far more just a case of two is company three is a crowd. These girls are obviously jealous in some way - people would NOT react like that to a friend.
they are just silly little buggers needing something to put you down over.
Chances are they were scared themselves and rather than face the fact that you were actually braver than them, they reacted by telling you that you were in the wrong.
WELL, nmaybe you were and maybe you were not - the point is that they have no place in being so nasty to you over a split decision.
This is not over the intruder incident, I think they just wanted to have a go at you for something.
Well, rest assured you obviously made them feel a bit insecure - don't go beating yourself up over it.
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September 25, 2000
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don't give the power away, let them be in the pickle, you seem to have it together.

September 26, 2000
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I stayed with my friend the night after the incident because I was so upset over the incident. However, when I came back the next day, my roommates apologized to me. But, for some reason, I still feel as though I am not as close to them as I was before. Sure I can forgive them, but it feels as though in the back of my mind there is still some hostility. I guess my hostility stems from my past experiences. I have had people to treat me wrong and I found it hard to trust anyone for a long time. But then, my roommates and I became friends last year and it felt like a true friendship. For once, I felt as though I could actually trust someone. Now, it feels like a great deal of trust between us was broken and I hope that we can repair this friendship? Can we? Will I always feel this way toward them? I surely hope not because they are good friends. How can I trust them after what happened? Someone please help me out, because I don't know what to do right not.

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September 28, 2000
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Thank everyone who has responded for doing so. I am doing much better now, and the situation has worked out! God was truly on my side because He blessed meto find a place where I can talk about my problems and receive assistance. He is also available 24/7 for me to carry my prayers to and once again I say thank u. GOD BLESS!!!!!!!!!!!

September 28, 2000
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Forgiving them doesn't mean that you think how they they treated you is ok but it means that you don't want to carry anger and hurt around anymore. Just let this go and allow this experience to deepen your friendship with them. Friendships are important and you have to work at them. You need to forgive yourself about making a mistake. Good luck.

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