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What my World Needs Now is
November 1, 2006
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I didn't mean that you were ignoring me MJ. You are one of the main reasons that I still come to AAC and I know that you are a caring and loving friend. I just meant that I will post on Coffeehouse or the Halloween thread, and it is like my post is invisible and no one talks to me. I truly wish it didn't matter. Anyway, that is my whine for the day.

And - I think that money problems cause so much stress to so many of us. Such a headache sometimes when you have to figure out how to balance life!

Sorry your meeting went badly MJ. Hugs dear friend and take good care of yourself. ((((MJ))))

Love, TS

November 2, 2006
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I knew that I wasn't ignoring you so I didn't take it personally my friend. I love and cherish you.

I can't sleep. I can't believe how hurt I feel over the fellowship. I know I can't change anyone but myself but it hurts to believe that others care about you and find out that really don't. My Ex sponsors actions were extremely hurtful to me. Why can't I let it go? Why do I wake up with this sadness and pain? I guess I am grieving. When things bother me I get insomnia.

I am going to pray and ask for help for my Higher Power and Let it Go.

I have lots of good happening in my life. I don't want to focus on the things I can't change. I can't change other people.

The sounds of rain are coming from my window. It is consoling. Love to YOU and All.

November 2, 2006
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Today I Surrender! I know I am powerless over others and that my life is unmananageable. I came to believe that a Power Greater than Myself could restore me to sanity.

I have Hope Today!

November 2, 2006
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How Important is it? Sometimes its really important to express how we feel and know we are not alone.

November 2, 2006
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What my world needs now is MONEY. Good grief, I hate being poor. And to think, I used to really believe that Love was all you needed. Ha!!!

jill

November 2, 2006
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Hi TS, IM sorry if I ignored you I really dont mean to. At times I want to chat with alot and end up not chatting or even answering any posts. I guess I am lazy or dont know how to respond so I generaly dont say much.

If I have offended you I am really sorry and will see that I do answer those who have posted to me directily.

I hope you have a good and happy day TS and be careful when your out walking as you said it gets darker each day so early.

Bel

November 2, 2006
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I just have a few minutes, but Bel - you are one of the reasons that I log on and check things out. I wasn't talking about you either or Tumbleweed. I was just talking about the site in general and everyone who seems to be communicating with each other. You are someone who does make me feel like you care and I appreciate it more than you can know. I am glad that we can find each other on a thread and talk. So, please don't think my comment was directed at you. I hope you are doing ok and that everything is going better at home.

MJ, sorry that you are hurting over yesterday. You have a very tender heart and your sponsor was wrong in her actions. Wish I could give you a real hug. Take care and know I am always here for you.

Love, TS

November 2, 2006
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Thanks for the internet hug.

November 2, 2006
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Hey Jill,

Money doesn't buy happiness, it just pays the bills. You can be rich and still feel miserable. I hope you get all the riches you need today!

November 2, 2006
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MJ I hope things get better for you and that your hurting goes away with the wind. You always try to motivate people with your uplifting sayings. I really like them and Thank you for them.

Have a great day and just take care of YOU.

Bel

November 2, 2006
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Hi Bel,

What you share is so sweet and appreciated. Thank YOU for being YOU.

I hope that you too know how special you are and I am always happy to hear what is going on with you. You have a Great Day as Well and keep taking good care of YOURSELF!

Love to All

November 2, 2006
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TS things at home are slightly better and there have been some improvements regarding the kids at home. One of my stepdaughters had run away she is 15 and she and her mother and sister who is 14 do not get along at all. Her mother seems to have it for Amy (15) and I sort of took her under my wing and we do lots together whenever possible. I started taking her to church with me and she has thrived and enjoys going very much. But I was away from home for a week a few weeks ago and I guess she could not take the verbal abuse any longer and ran away. She never came home from school and I came home right away and with my son and her mom and the police we were searching everywhere for her but when kids dont want to be found they are not. I ended up crying thinking of her out on the streets and not knowing what she was going through. She finally came home around 1am and was safe at home again. Child protective services got involved because of the police reports and they came and talked with her and the other kids and felt all was okay at home and closed the case.

Son and her mom talked with her and have promised to listen to her and give her more freedom and independence if she brings up her grades. WE found out when she ran away that she was cutting classes so she has to deal with the consequences for that. But happy to say that things are alot better for her and so glad that she is home with us.

Bel

November 3, 2006
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Sounds like you are dealing with problems in your home Bel.

I am glad Amy has your love and care.

November 3, 2006
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I'm so glad that you are there for Amy and you care so much for her. I can only imagine the fear of not knowing where she was that day she ran away. Glad that everything is going better and that child protective services allowed her to stay at home. You are an awesome lady and Amy is lucky to have you in her life.

MJ, I hope you are taking care of yourself and feeling a little better. Life is so hard sometimes and can be very hurtful. Stay strong my friend.

Love, TS

November 4, 2006
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I have insomnia again. I wish I could let go. I just can't believe my friend. Do I want to be a victim? Hell NO. So why am I losing sleep over this?

TS, I hope you feel better. Its no fun having illness. Hopefully you will mend today.

Love to All in the World.

November 4, 2006
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MJ, you are losing sleep because she was a friend and it hurts when someone that you care about treats you in this way. Please know that it is normal to feel sad and anxious and everything that you are feeling. I am sure that it also feels like you have a raw cut that needs mending. Your heart is raw with hurt over this and it will take time to heal. You are not being a victim - just a hurt and heartbroken friend who doesn't understand what happened. Hugs dear friend (((((MJ))))).

As for me, I am doing slightly better with the facial pain, but my sinuses are acting up an I am not sleeping too good myself.

Love, TS

November 4, 2006
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Aren't we the pair!!!

Couldn't imagine not having you as my friend. I hope that you get to feeling better soon and we both get caught back up on our rest.

I have been tinkering with a new recipe. I have never made a beef pot pie and I don't plan on doing it again 😉 It is pouring down buckets of rain and I feel sorry my hubby is out in it working hard making our living. I hope he appreciates my efforts as much as I appreciate his!

Love to YOU

November 5, 2006
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The Grief Process

To let ourselves wholly grieve our losses is how we surrender to the process of life and recovery. Some experts, like Patrick Carnes, call the Twelve Steps "a program for dealing with our losses, a program for dealing with our grief."

How do we grieve?

Awkwardly. Imperfectly. Usually with a great deal of resistance. Often with anger and attempts to negotiate. Ultimately, by surrendering to the pain.

The grief process, says Elisabeth Kubler Ross, is a five stage process: denial, anger, bargaining, sadness, and, finally, acceptance. That's how we grieve; that's how we accept; that's how we forgive; that's how we respond to the many changes life throws our way.

Although this five-step process looks tidy on paper, it is not tidy in life. We do not move through it in a compartmentalized manner. We usually flounder through, kicking and screaming, with much back and forth movement - until we reach that peaceful state called acceptance.

When we talk about "unfinished business" from our past, we are usually referring to losses about which we have not completed grieving. We're talking about being stuck somewhere in the grief process. Usually, for adult children and codependents, the place where we become stuck is denial.. Passing through denial is the first and most dangerous stage of grieving, but it is also the first step toward acceptance.

We can learn to understand the grief process and how it applies to recovery. Even good changes in recovery can bring loss and, consequently, grief. We can learn to help others and ourselves by understanding and becoming familiar with this process. We can learn to fully grieve our losses, feel our pain, accept, and forgive, so we can feel joy and love.

Today, God, help me open myself to the process of grieving my losses. Help me allow myself to flow through the grief process, accepting all the stages so I might achieve peace and acceptance in my life. Help me learn to be gentle with others and myself while we go through this very human process of healing.

November 5, 2006
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Hi MJ. Just checking in for a bit. I tried to go to church this morning - took 2 sudafeds on top of my other medication and completely fell apart at church - tears, no energy, completely out of it. My hubby said - NO more sudafed. We didn't even stay for the service as I just looked like death warmed over. I have slept off and on this afternoon and my cheek and head still hurt. I am trying to drink hot tea and liquids and took some ibuprofen.

I hope the grieving process is giving you comfort that what you are feeling is very normal but very hard. You are a sweet person and I wish I could make things better for you. Please know I am always here for you.

Love, TS

November 5, 2006
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(((((((((TS))))))))))))

I wish I could comfort you but all I know how to do is listen. Are you going to follow-up with the Dr tomorrow? Doesn't sound like you are getting any better. I am worried about you. Hope the rest helps.

Thanks for being supportive of my feelings. Love YOU

November 5, 2006
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To the subject of What the world needs now is that dreaded word... Time, NC, finally reaching the stage of acceptance and adjusting to being alone and feeling good about it... That is what I want...

November 5, 2006
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Hi Elizabeth anne,

We are all allotted the same amount of time each day to do with whatever we choose to do with it. I am glad you are reaching the stage of acceptance and adjusting to being alone and feeling good about it.

Today, I talked to my granddaughter and daughter on the tele. and mopped floors and vacuumed and cleaned out the frig. I went to the post office and started reading a new book. My mom sent it to me, its by Mrs. McGraw and its about being women and having choices. I had a good chuckle over the part where her husband has her climb in the trunk to listen for a rattle. I thought that was hysterical. I just finished reading War and peace and am happy to report that the epilogue was the best part. It talked about Power, free will, and philosophy. I realize it is a classic but I wouldn't recommend it. What was said in 1400 some odd pages could have been reduced to about 600 but that is why it is Leo Tolstoys' book and not mine. He got to author it just the way he wanted and I chose to read it.

November 6, 2006
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Today I am enjoying my day. I am treating myself kindly and reminding myself that I am worthy of love and I have self worth.

Love to all

November 6, 2006
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No contact can be a really good thing in getting healthy again Elizabeth Anne. You are getting stronger and you have time to regroup and feel good again.

MJ, glad you are having a good day and taking care of yourself. Sounds like you know what your world needs and you are taking care of your needs and what is important.

Love, TS

November 7, 2006
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Thanks TS...and what does your world need?

I need a boat today! The rains, the flooding, and the wind is getting to me. Anyone want to sind Row , row, row your boat...gently down

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