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What makes you proud of yourself?
February 13, 2006
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Me - I am proud of myself because I just finished six weeks of calm, peaceful, joyous existance with my BF.

This is a record for me, and for us....but bigger is the record for me - since it's been YEARS since I have been able to sustain a peacful, joyous existance with any man for longer than 6 weeks.

It looked like we were going to hit the wall at six weeks. His nana was in the hospital, dying for the last week - and that kept him from coming home. And towards the end of the week - that did wear on my nerves a tad. And then the service was on Saturday - and they were calling for a blizzard - so I couldn't attend and there was a chance that he may not make it back home to me when it was over. I had some anxiety about that. His family also seemed to have an agenda that did not include me and I had some anxiety on that.

But overall, the anxiety was MANAGEABLE!!! I was able to talk myself through it. I was able to keep my chin up and see the silver lining (like being a bum all weekend cuz I got snowed in). And I was able to remind myself that the storm may hold off and he may make it home before the storm. I was upset that I couldn't go to the service, but, in the end, I wasn't feeling well and he got home very late, so, it was better I didn't go. I spoke to gayle a bit on friday and she reminded me that this was the "dreaded" week six and that because we were both on edge, it seemed worse....and to not make it HIS problem.

So later when BF and I talked - we talked about how we didn't like the situation - but accepted and it and would make it thru and be okay.....we were looking forward to our time together - whenever that would end up being. We communicated and were able to talk about our issues and fears and neither of us got our panties in a bunch over it.

The weekend went pretty good - he came home friday, we picked up some movies and dinner....saturday we went to a truck club lunch and then I went home and napped the afternoon away (two nights of insomnia had kicked my butt and started making me sick)....he went to the services....and came home as soon as he could....because of my nap, I wasn't tired, so we sat up watching a silly dog show until 2 a.m.....slept in on sunday....he cleaned my car, his car and mom's car free of snow so the guys could plow....we went to walmart to pick up valentine's day stuff.....stopped and got pizza on the way home....and had a nice quiet night alone together.

It worked out JUST FINE - despite our fears and worries. And now that the "dreaded six week" is out of the way, we can continue to enjoy our time together and count our blessings.

I am proud of me for handling my anxiety this weekend - it was a HUGE breakthru - as this was a big hurdle for me. I am proud of "us" as a team, cuz we both see it, appreciate it and are grateful for the progress we have made - and we can both see the progress that each of us has made, alone and as a team.

It CAN BE DONE!

February 13, 2006
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Awesome sharing Alicat! I am learning to be who I am and accept that I don't need others approval or validation. I haven't did my own taxes for quite a few years and decided to do them using on online tax. I felt confident that I could read the information and fill it out. My hubby isn't as confident that I did it right. I am choosing to know that I did my best and for me that is good enough! If we are audited because of my efforts then so be it too! I am proud that I accomplished something important and different!

February 13, 2006
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MJ - those online tax things make it very simple - I am SURE you did it right. I did mine online too - can't wait for my return!!!

Good job!

February 13, 2006
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I been taking driving lessons over the past few months and i now am due to take my test on the 28th,, i am proud of myself of overcoming my fear of driving (telling my instructer whom was ripping me off) telling me i was doing everything wrong)So i am now going with my friends instead whom told me my ex instructer was talking bull as i drive really well so i am now taking my test in my own car and i am really proud of myself for A learning to drive and B telling my instructer goodbye......GT

February 13, 2006
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I'm proud that I started looking at my self in a more positive image.. I'm also proud I've joined this group and starting sharing..I just like alot of people, I'm not unique, which is a relieve. 🙂

February 13, 2006
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I am proud that I have started making many significant changes in my life. First of all making me my priority instead of my husband. Taking care of my priorities. I am proud of my new career that I am being succesful in. I am proud to be a good friend. I am proud that I am caring and loving to others. I am proud that I rescued to puppys this weekend when it was 20 degrees out and found them a home to. I am proud that I am a good mother. I am proud that I have good morals.

I am proud most of all that I have taken my power back.

February 13, 2006
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I am proud of my children....they are both well behaved, good students, and I get compliments about their behavior all the time.

I am proud of my accomplishments in my career.

Most of all, I am proud of the steps I have taken to heal myself, detach myself from my ex, and find myself again.

Great thread, alicat...

February 13, 2006
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Im proud of myself because over the last couple weeks I have been trying hard to focus on getting healthier eating and excersing habits. I have lost about three pounds, which is no big deal, but just excersing more and feeling more confident in myself is a good feeling. I have decided not to focus on my weight and how much I really ned to lose, but to just get better, healthier habits to feel better. I also have been utilizing the website http://www.smallsteps.gov ...Its a good way to look at it.. a small step at a time, they add up and you dont get so frustrated that the big things arent working.

February 13, 2006
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I've got a pretty good heart for people...they are my passion.

My college buddy described me as -the girl who cares about EVERYONE.

Now, alls I have to do is learn to identify the line between having a good heart and being codependent.

Then, I'll be in business.

February 13, 2006
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I am proud of myself because no matter how many times I fall on my face, I still get up and keep trying.

I am proud that I am doing so well in school.

February 13, 2006
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Thanks Alicat! Great Thread!

February 14, 2006
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I'm proud of myself for finally letting go of my additctions, alcohol, pot... I am finally looking at myself and facing the fears that I have covered up with my addictions for years. It's scary to say the least but I am determined to find out what the fears are all about. I think only then will the fears go away.
I love myself for taking care of me.

February 16, 2006
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the fact that my inlaws said it would be inpossible for me to potty train my 3 almost 4 yr old and she did it she went potty for me iam so happy and now its consistant and i havent been over to there house in a month feels so awsom to have the control back in my own life hugs

February 17, 2006
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I am proud that i am finally going back to school after all these years.

and all that i have accomplished after seperating from my perpatrator 5 years ago.

and most of all, proud of myself cause it took a minute but i can honestly say "I am a good mom!"

Yes, I am proud of myself!

February 17, 2006
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I am proud that through this forum and 1 to 1 therapy, I have found a path in life I feel excited and happy to follow. I want to become a professional counsellor and tomorrow will take my first step towards my goal by training to become an advocate at a crisis centre. Thanks!

February 17, 2006
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I am proud of myself for finding me. I am so proud that I found out to be a happy man. I am so proud that I really do love my 2 kids. I am so proud that I love myself. I am so proud of being able to tell you all this without lying. I am so proud to wake up everyday to put a smile on my face because I see someone growing and growing each day through the recovery process.....Life is great!! No really, I am not lying!!! 🙂

February 17, 2006
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I am proud of me- for having the strength to take control of my own mind, body and soul. For having the courage and presence of mind to let go of the things that hold me down and make me ill. For leaving a career behind and beginning a new journey. After two years, I took the first step, and I feel awesome. I am proud of me.

Thank you Ali, this is a great thread.

February 17, 2006
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I am proud of me for starting to write again. As a single mother I just kind of let it fizzle, and as the ex of an empotional/phsychological abuser, I really didn't have any faith in myself or anything I did being worth effort--suspecting everything I did was just pathetic, wrong, or 'cute'. It's just a little blog for now, just to get back in the habit of writing every day (and boy am I rusty), but it speaks to me about a lot more than writing, it sort of tells me how I am feeling about myself that I am pursuing and putting real effort into my own interests and am able to enjoy it. I'm VERY proud of that. I guess in a way it means to me that I am recovering in a big way from the abuse. I just love when things like that sneak up on you!

Ali, didn't read these all, but read yours and Whooo-Hooo! You are bigger than that anxiety, kick it's a$$ girl!!!!

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