Avatar
Please consider registering
guest
sp_LogInOut Log In sp_Registration Register
Register | Lost password?
Advanced Search
Forum Scope


Match



Forum Options



Minimum search word length is 3 characters - maximum search word length is 84 characters
sp_TopicIcon
What is wrong with me I cant seem to pin it down!
October 19, 2000
9:10 pm
Avatar
shanti
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 24, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Hi everyone..Thanks for tuning in and having an interest in me.. Well for me I have a couple of issues that maybe someone can clarify for me.. The first being I dont really trust people and therefore find it very hard as I constantly look for something in people to show me I was right about them so to speak. I have let my guard down for at the longest 1 year and after I felt myself relaxing a bit more I got "burnt again" which just re-inforced the " I knew it" stigma! I am single, not married, no children, I have gone from having lots of people around me to living on ,my own,, I have had a few close male friends but if they have shown an interest in me, i dont really see they are attracted to me or I tell myself that they are not so I sit back and just wait/watch!them and then I question their motives and actions some have been younger than I but they say I dont look my age...Man lastly I cant even make a decsion on my life..you know I realise some people would like to be single and no ties so to speak so what is my problem!!! One thing I know is I am a loyal friend to all who cross my path but I have been hurt by family and so called best friends before..I cant seem to put my finger on it!!

October 21, 2000
3:36 pm
Avatar
janes
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 24, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

If you look long enough you can find something wrong with everything and anything. We have all been "burnt" by others. But if you let that ruin ALL your relationships you will be alone.

While being alone can be fulfilling on many levels we are also social creatures who need contact with other.

There are many times when we need to allow others to be "human"-full of frailties and shortcomings. No One is perfect.

You may be looking for the faults in others to allow yourself to stay away from everyone.

On a daily basis we all deal with cold shoulders and rebuffs.

Look to strenghtening your self. If and when you are safe and secure with you...then maybe you can allow others in. Once you are a strong you it should not matter what others do...you always have you.

But if would be sad to be old and alone with no memories of warm freiendshops to look back on....

October 23, 2000
4:58 am
Avatar
guest_guest
Guest
Guests

shanti, do your parents love you? do they trust you? how do u explain ur relationship with ur parents?
do u think you have low self-esteem? emotional abuse counts.
i myself cant trust people. i never let anyone get close to me. its been the same with me. whenever anyone shows interest in me, i run away from them. i get uncomfortable. i start thinking why they're interested in me. all the same things u said. i'm single too. i cant seem to think of any reason why anyone would like me.
take a look at ur past. do u find any reason why u are the way u are?

October 23, 2000
6:53 pm
Avatar
Molly
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 30, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

I think we all have tapes from our child hood, the answer is self love, and that is where religion can help, knowing we are all basically good as is. Trust is tuff today, and it is good to be cautious, gosh read the threads. being present in the moment, and knowing you are ok is it. Just be what you want to be, loving respectable, approachable, open accepting, with boundries. It works.

November 2, 2000
2:22 am
Avatar
chocochino
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 30, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

It is amazing-these letters could come from me,here I sit and read all this and recognize myself and that gives me the feeling,that there is a name to the problem-and still no one can tell you what it is.Haven't we been aknowledged enough by our parents to feel so little about ourselfs,and why are there people out there,who have these feelings under control?

November 2, 2000
2:51 am
Avatar
guest_guest
Guest
Guests

yes choco.. the major problem comes from our parents... :(. they are messed up themselves. they thought they were doing the right thing, but often they were blind to see what they were doing. its so sad, that we have these problems now. i see mentally healthy people around me, girls i like and things i want to do, but i cant seem to do them as yet, cause i dont have the personality :(. mere survival is a struggle when u're mostly depressed, suicidal and sick of life.

Forum Timezone: UTC -8
Most Users Ever Online: 247
Currently Online:
22
Guest(s)
Currently Browsing this Page:
1 Guest(s)
Top Posters:
onedaythiswillpass: 1134
zarathustra: 562
StronginHim77: 453
free: 433
2013ways: 431
curious64: 408
Member Stats:
Guest Posters: 49
Members: 110922
Moderators: 5
Admins: 3
Forum Stats:
Groups: 8
Forums: 74
Topics: 38536
Posts: 714207
Newest Members:
Corties, patrickstayes, kevinkovalsky, izzy39, RoyFollman, kevin021
Moderators: arochaIB: 1, devadmin: 9, Tincho: 0, Donn Gruta: 0, Germain Palacios: 0
Administrators: admin: 21, ShiningLight: 572, emily430: 29

Copyright © 2019 MH Sub I, LLC. All rights reserved. Terms of Use | Privacy Policy | Cookie Policy | Health Disclaimer