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?What is True love?
September 2, 2006
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Juanita. Thanks for the word of encouragement. I am in a slump. Having a mid life crisis. Have a career that I am now dissatisfied with in life. Need to move to a different career. I pray that I will know which field to pursue. I am love (as Dr. Dyer and others say) and need to wait--love will come to me. I will attract love. In other words, I should not be so focused on looking for love out there from someone---it will be drawn to me. Recently, however, I was attracted to someone yet the relationship never took off. Feeling depressed because I was so ready. I can't control or make someone love me. I feel vulnerable. If I'm love and so loving then why was he not interested in me?

September 3, 2006
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Simple. The timing is not right, the chemistry is not right, guys can be stupid...

But, it will be worth the wait when you find the right one. I imagine how lucky he'll be sharing in all the love you have to offer him.

Take it easy on yourself Slipped... everyone hits slumps now & then. Do something nice for yourself ~ be good to yourself ~ for nothing like goodness counteracts sadness.

Me? I'd go buy some really nice bath stuff & treat yourself (myself) to a "spa" day at home. Long hot bath, bath salts or bubbles, candle light, your favorite shampoos, soaps, lotions.... the whole 9 yards.

Take care,
it will happen...

Juanita

September 3, 2006
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Juanita. You sound like a positive and nice person. How did you get to be that way? I need to focus on a career. For the life of me, I don't know what to purse. Yes, my interest is medicine but also law. I am too old to go to medical school..I believe. Also, I don't believe that I want to treat patients..more interested in medical research, however, I can't designate the exact field of study that I'd like to pursue. Waiting on my Higher Power to make it evident to me. Yes, I also would like to have that special someone in my life. Need to focus more on me..doing codependency work..so my love is not based out of fear (fear of abandonment) but out of true love and interest for a man. I want to be the best me that I can be and hopefully I will be exactly what someone needs. In other words a true match. The right time, person, and chemistry will all fall into place with that special someone. It is possible that I have already met that person...and the timing is not right, or perhaps I have not yet that person. You are a kind soul for listening to another person's inner thoughts and feelings. Thank you.

September 3, 2006
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Slipped,

Why not start a thread about if anyone can tell you about medical research? I'm sure there would be someone here who could shed some light on the topic ~ the courses to start with, length of time involved, whether they like it or not. Just an idea...

As far as true love ~ yes I believe it will find a person ~ but I have nothing against helping it along a little... you know ~ make yourself available for opportunity to meet people. Be it joining a health club, taking a college course, joining an internet dating site... if you get out there & meet more people, you will increase your odds of meeting someone. Of course, I strongly urge taking every possible safety precaution with the internet dating stuff, but that doesn't mean don't do it. I highly recommend the same thing for people you meet in real life too. (don't give them all your info on the first date kind of thing)

I thank you for the compliments. How did I get to be this way? Well, I confess, I do use humor to escape my sadness with. Sometimes there is nothing else anyone can do except laugh because if you don't, you'll cry. Ever notice how easy it is to follow a sad thought pattern? Well, it is too easy. It is harder to look for the brighter thought pattern, but if you succeed ~ well then... a much better mood results! Sometimes, the only person we have to kick our own butts with is ourselves - best get into that self-preservation mode of kicking one's own butt. Also, I was brought up to treat others as I hope to be. Everyone hurts & needs a little love & understanding every now & again. Hopefully, the efforts I put out today will be returned to me when I need it.

I don't know if this helped any. Chaulk me up to a softy, or a romantic at heart. I'm guilty.

Most important though ~ NEVER give up hope. Always have Hope & you will always be able to persevere in anything you do... and with Hope inside, there will be a smile outside.

Take care,
Juanita

September 4, 2006
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Juanita. Thank you again. Very greatful for your insights. Hope that you find all the love and wonderful people in your life that you deserve. I have tried the internet dating sites and currently still attempt to talk and or meet someone, however, have not met the right one. I use dating sites with caution so I have not run into any problems. I guess time and hope is all I have to hold onto at this time. Let time bring the right person, in the meantime I continue to work on myself. I will further dig into the medical research field as well as looking into law. I pray that I will have a burning desire to follow a particular course of study just as I had a burning desire to study the field that I am currently in now. If I don't know..then it is not the right time yet so I wait till I do know that I must pursue a certain field. Patience is hard for me.

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