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what is the difference between hate and love?
August 21, 2001
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really what is it.... Hate takes a passion and so does love....If I hate someone where does that come from is the same part of the heart/brain as love and truely what is love any way is it trust, guilt, freedom. Why do we love/hate anything? I don't know where I am going with this but I just wonder what those things are... I heard someone say that If I don't love you then I have to hate you becaouse you do something to me....

August 21, 2001
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Sue, I think hate is when someone has done something to you that you don't agree with or welcome. Love is when someone gives something to you that you welcome. It could be in a number of different ways. Yes, the emotion comes from the heart, the decision to feel comes from the brain. That's my two cents worth.
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August 21, 2001
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thank you randy I really was just pondering....Can a person be so confused about it that they can't tell a difference at all?

August 21, 2001
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Emotions are basically partitioned into different sectors of the brain. Think of the brain as "Intel" or "Microsoft" office headquarters....

Here's how it really works:

There's the "love" Dept. (which has lots of chicks sitting around never doing their work and talking about how jerky their guy friends are acting), the "hate" Dept. (another popular office of the company, just pray no one is carrying a stapler or sharp envelope opener), the "happy" Dept. (which interestingly enough, is always empty), the "sad" Dept. (or what I like to refer to as the "Human Relations" dept.), the "fear" Dept. (full of all the employees who think their gonna get axed any minute), and the "I hate the freakin Mets" office (or vice versa for Mets fans who hate the Yankees). Then there are departments that house sub-sensitive feelings like "exuberant", "shy", "drunk bastard", and "a-hole" (which surprisingly, is where I call home)...

There really is no "emotion" in the heart, per say.... or the groinal region for that matter. They are kinda what you'd call "contractors" or "satellite offices" who just claim they do all the work when they really don't. It's all housed upstairs at Headquarters.

So any way, there is a distinct difference bewteen the love and hate depts. but they're right across the hall from each other so I can see how you could easily get them mixed up.

Hope this helps...

August 21, 2001
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You can love someone and hate their actions, the decisions they make, etc. Confusion usually sets in with us when something we are seeing is running contrary to what we had previously believed to be true. We so often get into the mindset of things are either all blue, or all purple or all this way or that, when in all reality - we seldom see the full picture with all it's many dimensions and facets. That goes for people as well. So, if we are arrogant enough to assume that we can truly see all this dimension, the minute we do - we bring our field of vision down to a pinhole because basically we are saying - don't / won't see anymore than what I have sketched out here. Believe me - we are all this arrogant....(smile)

We tend to love, adore and worship - what we sketch. We're like that. If it has our name, our approval, and our okay'd analysis report on it - then hey - it's locked in and law.....right? So.....if something runs contrary to that - the first thing we want to do is shoot it out of the sky because what we devised - is being attacked. Actually, what is being so-called attacked is our own invention of what is supposedly real, born out of our experiences, needs, desires, perceptions and cultural teachings. So, the question begs to be asked.......are we willing to pull ourselves away from what we project long enough to take in what is real and accept it? And.....are we secure enough in ourselves to also say - whatever it turns out to be - doesn't take anything from me except my ignorance and now that the veil has been lifted somewhat - I can only see more clearly and therefore chart my path with more wisdom than ever before.

August 21, 2001
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Hate and love - same passionate fuel, with different spouts of application. One is a weapon, the other is an insrument. If love is self-centered / all about me - then hate will erupt the minute the supply of whatever ends. Typical infantile response.

August 21, 2001
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but isn't every tool a weapon if you hold it right?

August 21, 2001
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Distracted....guess it depends on the choice factor, could use the fuel to heat your house or blow it up. It's an energy and is our choice as to how we use it.

August 21, 2001
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Love and Hate are not oposites they are the strongest emotions we have and there is a fine line between them, if you love someone it can quickly turn to hate and vice versa!!!

August 21, 2001
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Guess I good question to ask here is - are their different kinds of love, different kinds of hate?

August 21, 2001
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and past that, are the lines fluid?

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August 21, 2001
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I guess they could be - but can oil and water mix?

August 21, 2001
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Most definately. In Japanese there are several different words for "love" - love between friends, between siblings, parent-child, child-parent, younger sibling-older sibling, between relatives, affection for an object, etc.

But hate is, I think harder to distinguish. There is dislike, but that is not to the same scale.

It's funny because I was having a discussion with some friends about how language limits cognition, and how few people realize this. What labels you have filed away in your brain for things limits the spectrum of experience for you. Thus, in english the common problem is that "i have no words for what I am experiencing".

I mean, what is love? What is hate? All we have to go by is a list of characteristics to check off.

When I was growing up I was always chastised by my father for using the word "hate" - I was hardly ever allowed to use it. He always said that I didn't really hate, I just strongly disliked, and I should label my emotions more accurately and with less drama. People throw that word around like it's nothing (same with love, though).

I can't think of anyone or anything I truely hate, even those who have committed crimes against me.

August 21, 2001
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I guess that's what I'm driving at here is there's such a full spectrum here to look at, examine, be open to. Some things there are no words for, but we communicate/experience things on many levels. We experience life dimensionally, with all our senses, through different windows of perspective, and introspection, so to spit it out in words that don't portray all that - you'd be doing the experience an injustice, right?

We can either live life as paper dolls or as the dimensional being that we truly are....

Sometimes what is truly experienced, when a person is able to really be "present in the moment" - are words really necessary - or would it take away from the experience? We westerners - talk too much, we fill in space where - silence would have so much to say or teach.

August 21, 2001
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I read somewhere that the opposite of love is indifference. There are no feelings there at all. So I would say the opposite of hate is indifference too.

August 21, 2001
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that is what I thought too the opposite of each is indifference. see if I have no passion for you at all I can let go of it... like meeting some one and never thinking of them again... or any thing like that... that is why I question the difference...sue

August 21, 2001
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However, sometimes apathy or indifference is better than hating because it's not as poisonous to you or to the other person.

August 21, 2001
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Could Hate be our defensive side coming out? I mean when we get hurt or our feelings crushed we automatically "hate". When we love some one we let all barriers down. Maybe that is why love can turn to hate so quickly.

August 22, 2001
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I tend to think that both love and hate have more to do with the person feeling them than the person they are directed toward. In otherwords, that these emotions are a reflection of ourselves more than an indication of what kind of person the object of our emotions is. . .

I mean, haven't you ever "loved" someone and had all your friends or family think you were completely off your rocker? And haven't you ever felt hate for a person, and then later realized that (s)he wasn't really the evil spawn of Satan you thought they were?

For me, love is not an emotion in and of itself, but rather it is a combination of several different things such as empathy, affection, attraction, concern, peacefullness, contentment, etc. based on a strong foundation of trust and respect. And hate is usually a combination of feelings of disappointment, hurt, frustration, anger, contempt, etc. based on a strong foundation of disrespect and distrust.

I think that the words love and hate are really huge blanket terms that cover certain combinations of emotions in a variety of proportions depending on the individual(s) involved. But who really knows, since it's different for all of us. . .

Mal

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