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what is emotional abuse?
November 30, 2011
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what is considered emotional abuse?  Is it when your girl, or boyfriend tries to make you jealous?  Tries to push your buttons?  What is it?  I really need some help?

November 30, 2011
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There were a lot of other choices.  You might try doing a search.  Here is one definition I found via google search:

 

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  • Harming a person through emotional abuse, sometimes called mental abuse, means there is a consistent and chronic pattern of maltreatment that is causing significant distress. Mental abuse interferes with a person's ability to develop healthy and stable patterns of relating to other.
December 1, 2011
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Emotional abuse is used to control, degrade, humiliate and punish a
spouse. While emotional abuse differs from physical abuse, the end
result is the same…a spouse becomes fearful of their partner and begins
to change their behaviors to keep their partner happy. The happier their
partner, the less domestic violence the spouse has to suffer. By the
time a spouse identifies the true problem they have begun to feel as if
they are crazy. They will doubt themselves and their own sense of
reality because emotional abuse is meant to cause the victim to question
their every thought and behavior.

Below are some tactics an emotional
abuser will use:

  • Isolating a spouse from friends and family.
  • Discourage any independent activities such as work; taking classes or activities with friends.
  • Accuse their spouse of being unfaithful if she talks to a member of the opposite sex.
  • Expect her/him to partake in sexual activities that he/she is
    uncomfortable with to prove their love. Or, withhold sex as punishment
    instead of communicating openly their displeasure.
  • Constantly criticize the spouses weight, their looks, they way they dress.
  • If the spouse does not give into the control they are threatened, harassed, punished and intimidated by the abuser.
  • Uses the children to gain control by undermining the other parent’s authority or threatening to leave and take the children.
  • Control all the financial decisions, refuse to listen to their
    partner’s opinion, withhold important financial information and make
    their spouse live on limited resources.
  • Make all major decisions such as where to live, how to furnish the home and what type of automobile to drive.
December 1, 2011
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Thank You for the support.. I have come to realize at this point in my life that all the people I have been attracted to have drank too much, smoked pot a lot, have done acid in their past along with other narcotics..  I had always thought... they  change, give it time, I am the good guy.  Right?  Wrong I have always been.  I am now up against a person that is very kind to me, but drinks every day.  I saw that on Thanksgiving and the day after she started at 9 am when she got up. I have never seen her truly drunk, maybe It actually scared me.  My mother used to do the same thing, over, and over.  When ever we go out, she will stare at guys like she used to stare at me when I first met her, it makes me feel humiliated, anxious to a dangerous degree, and angry.  She goes out with friends.. I dont care, but now I am questioning how I really feel.  They are all guys she goes out with, drinking buddies.  any way, I dont like to feel anxious, and humiliated.  I keep doubting how I feel, and questioning my inner voice.  Is it that I am really insecure and jealous, like she says I am when she constantly looks and stares at guys, and I question her?  Or am I that way because of how I grew up?  How can I stop meeting this type of person.. Thank You...

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