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August 31, 2001
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I've heard this term many times and I was wondering if someone could explain what "emotionally unavailable" means?

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August 31, 2001
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Sounds like a blow off, looking for a good time, but no committment.
Sure I'll go out with you, but I'm emotionally unavailable.
Cheater????

September 1, 2001
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from my own experience someone who is emotionally unavailable is scared of commitment they believe that to share their deepest fears and feelings would be putting themselves at risk of being used hurt and then abbandoned. Their biggest fear is being controlled and the hardest thing for them to do is to trust. unfortunatly there is no way out for them unless they see this for themselves and work at recovery.No amount of reassurance from you will change this they have to realise it for themselves then you can be a friend and encourage.encourage.encourage.The thing you have to avoid is taking responsibilty for them and thinking you can heal them only they can do that by seeking help

September 2, 2001
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A person who is emotionally unavailable has walls around their heart, lots of times because they want to avoid being hurt. So they will only let you get so close, and then that's it, or if they feel tempted to have more closeness, they might push you away or do things to "test" you to see if you really do love or care about them.

The thing about walls is that while they may keep some pain out, they also keep lots of good things out as well. And the walls work both ways--not only are things not able to get in to the person, but they are not able to give love, support, and caring like others.

Hope this makes sense...

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September 4, 2001
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Means that their hearts are involved elsewhere, yet they are open to "playing" with you. IE: they are in love with someone, heart committed.

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