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What Do You Men Like In a Woman?
March 23, 2006
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I am just curious as to what most men prefer in a woman. Here are some of my silly questions. Answer as many as you want...

-Do you like perfume, if so, what kinds? (fruity, vanilla, musk etc)
-Do you care about nailpolish and nail length?
-Do you like it when women wear a lot of eye makeup?
-Is lipstick attractive or just a colorless gloss?
-Is it sexy when women wear their hair down or up?
-Is curly or straight hair sexier?
-Jewellery, take it or leave it?
-Prefer your girl to be casual and comfortably dressed, or tight, sexy outfits?
- Do you like it when a girl speaks her mind?
- How do you feel when a girl is herself around you:aka acts silly, burps, doesn't mind making a fool of herself?
- Is it really true that confidence makes someone much more attractive?
- Do you really appreciate a smart girl or do you just say that to sound less shallow?
- Choose one: Pretty girl with a lot of makeup and a perfect body who is an airhead OR a cute girl who wears natural makeup, and is a little chubby but who is witty and funny.

Thanks for enlightening me!

March 23, 2006
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Hi crazycathy,

glad you asked!! Let me give you my personal take on your questions.

Perfume, YES!!Which kind does not really matter as long as it suits the woman and is discreetly applied, nothing more irritating than a woman who smells like she bathed in perfume.

Nailpolish, also YES -- but no garish colors please and no fake nails. Short, manicured and well-groomed nails are also sexy.

Makeup and lipstick -- more of the same. Attractive as long as they suit the looks and character and are applied sparingly, to accentuate rather than hide :-).

Jewellery, yes as long as it is used as an accessory and not to shoe off. I prefer silver myself, no huge diamond rings or flashy gold.

Sexy versus casual -- should suit the occasion. The only exception is women who can always dress in one style because it perfectly fits their character and image. My girlfriend has perfected the "scruffy" look and it suits her perfectly. She doesn't need to put on tight stuff to drive me wild.

On to character. I guess my overall take is, I am attracted to women who are comfortable in their skin and do not feel they have to make an effort to "play" a character. Whether they are extroverted or not, playful or not, etc. it's very sexy to meet a woman who oozes her personality without having to try. Being a little coy/playing hard to get is definitely a turn-on.

Confidence is a BIG one. As I said above, a woman who is confident enough to be herself and does not go out of her way to make an impression is always attractive in my book.

Smart YES -- but not trying to prove she is smart (this irritates me in men as well by the way). I enjoy being challenged by women because it makes things more interesting in every way.

Your choice between a physically attractive airhead and a cute, natural and smart girl is an interesting one. Let me give you my theory on how men usually operate. From an evolution standpoint, men are hard-wired to be ATTRACTED to physically appealing women. This does not necessarily mean that they will always choose to develop relationships with only physically attractice women, only that the initial attraction is biased towards them.

Smarts, character, humor etc. are attributes which are discovered at a later stage in the game. What I am trying to say is that most men will be visually focused on physical beauty to start with, because that's what their lizard-brain directs them to do. After they have gone beyond the initial stage of initial attraction, most men appreciate and are attracted to a wider range of traits. The point is to get them over the initial stage.

Again, confidence plays a major role here. I have met women who are not classically beautiful but who are so comfortable with themselves that they are hugely attractive. Usually, these women know very well how to use their own individual attractive traits to best advantage and a beautiful airhead would stand little chance in terms of competition.

So, a long post, hopefully I have helped you with some male perspectives.

Would love to hear your take on what attracts women to men :-).

March 23, 2006
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TooToughToDie,
I like your response and find it helpful.

Its hard to describe what I find attractive in a man. Sometimes I see young men running without their shirts and there's a muscle tone that is visually appealing, but I can't imagine the conversation being great. I like really really smart, arrogant, powerful men, with some vulnerability; physically -> balding with a little tummy (not big, but healthy). oh, and sarcastic, witty - love jon stewart, though he's not really, well he's a little skinny for me and he looks like maybe he smokes which is a big turnoff.

March 23, 2006
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Well this has been very helpful! I would love to see more men respond too, since everyone has different tastes.

For me, what I find attractive in a man is wittyness, the ability to make me laugh, and the ability to have a good conversation. A couple of things that drive me crazy about guys (in a good way) are #1 their smile #2 their smell (cologne or after shave!!) #3 their back and shoulders (slightly muscular) #4 strong hands.

Also I love it when guys joke around with you like a friend but are also willing to do things for you like a gentleman. Cockyness is a huge turnoff but confidence in conversation is good. Smelling good and being clean is an understatement. Having shaggy hair is one thing, but being dirty is gross. lol

My favorite thing about men is the way they look at you and make you melt!

March 24, 2006
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crazycathy,

Hi. Being a man, I thought I'd take a stab at answering your questions, as you said you'd like more guy input. I hardly ever am on the support side so I missed this thread earlier.

-Do you like perfume, if so, what kinds? (fruity, vanilla, musk etc)

I like almost any perfume that isn't too strong and smells feminine (I know that's rather vague), meaning I don't care much for musk.

-Do you care about nailpolish and nail length?

I don't care for nailpolish, although it's not a turn-off. For nail length, I like maybe an eighth inch or longer white at the end of the nails. I don't like nails that are trimmed to the finger -- it looks too masculine.

-Do you like it when women wear a lot of eye makeup?

I don't care for eye makeup at all.

-Is lipstick attractive or just a colorless gloss?

I also don't care for lipstick, nor for excessive glossiness.

-Is it sexy when women wear their hair down or up?

Depends on the individual woman. I like the way ponytails swish from side to side when a woman walks, and also like hair hanging down on the shoulders. I do not care for short hair in women (above the ears).

-Is curly or straight hair sexier?

I have a slight preference for wavy hair (not too straight, not curly either). But as long as it's well cared for and clean, I don't care very much.

-Jewellery, take it or leave it?

I don't like a lot of jewelry. Maybe one pair of earrings, a ring or two, a necklace. Much more than this becomes too visually distracting.

-Prefer your girl to be casual and comfortably dressed, or tight, sexy outfits?

Casual and comfortable, unless we're going somewhere special.

- Do you like it when a girl speaks her mind?

Yes, in an appropriate way. I want her to tell me what's on her mind in a straightforward way. If she doesn't like someithing I'm doing, or sees a suggestion for improvement, I'd like to hear it. I want her to have her own opinions on issues.

- How do you feel when a girl is herself around you:aka acts silly, burps, doesn't mind making a fool of herself?

Silly I don't mind and it can be cute at times. Making a fool of herself, on occasions it's fine, but I wouldn't want her to overdo it. Burps? No, that's a strong turn-off for me. I don't like it when guys burp either.

- Is it really true that confidence makes someone much more attractive?

Yes, definitely.

- Do you really appreciate a smart girl or do you just say that to sound less shallow?

I like a smart girl. We can have more meaningful conversations that way.

- Choose one: Pretty girl with a lot of makeup and a perfect body who is an airhead OR a cute girl who wears natural makeup, and is a little chubby but who is witty and funny.

Definitely the second girl. I didn't need to hestitate for a moment. I generally find women who have a quality character, and who take reasonable care of themselves, very attractive, even if they have some extra pounds. The better I get acquainted with them, the more attractive they become.

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June 12, 2006
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Just wanted to bring this back into circulation in case anyone else had anymore thoughts.

June 13, 2006
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Its a package deal for me. Not always about looks. Her personality and values are going to go a long way. Chemistry is nice, without it I feel something is missing. Humor and the ability to have fun is on my list. Honesty...a biggy, without this I have one foot out the door already. A girl that seeks to develop her spiritual side is a plus. Emotional maturity is good. One that overlooks my shortcomings (or at least gives me a chance to address them) is a keeper.
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June 13, 2006
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Nice post Robert. Not too many men would admit that those things are important. I really like the part about the shortcomings because I think all humans have these--some are just not willing to admit it, much less address them.
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June 13, 2006
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Cathy,

I'd like to second what Robert said. For me, character, mutual goals, and a certain degree of chemistry are the most important things.

I also like a woman who doesn't put too much value on possessions or money, but for whom people are more important than things.

I also don't particularly care for makeup. Bright lipstick and fingernail polish don't appeal to me. This isn't an absolute must, but I prefer no more jewelry than a pair of earrings, a necklace, and a ring or two.

Good question, Cathy.

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June 14, 2006
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Well this is a big issue - what what! Gosh I could sit for some time bestowing the attributes of what men like in women - having said this I must confess I have made mistakes in many of my selections - which I suppose should make me something of an expert on the subject - hmm - hmm. Well here goes ---------Men are attracted to big tits and a small arse - we are programmed this way to get the loins interested. Bodily attractions I would say play an awful large part our DNA programming is our main troubled area. WE fuck up on this and sadly give out the wrong message to women - the girls squeeze their parts into shoes - garments and spend a fortune on attracting guys. I suppose this will be the way until we start to tell women the truth about what we like about women - using the centre of our brain instead of the dangle bits between our legs. Moving on -- I would say these days for me - it is chemistry. The truth of the matter there are only three major truths in what men like in women and it features all in. Chemistry - Chemistry - Chemistry! We should be looking for our soul mates in women and they in us. Sadly many couples pair up on my first line of attraction which lasts until sex has been exhausted then partners split.
My best advise to a women - be yourself - for yourself. Look a man in the eyes search after his soul and give your tits a rest - men will look at them and miss the truth about who you really are.
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June 14, 2006
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well...interesting thread. I stopped in to read because I had my first date in 20 years yesterday...and thought I just might need to know what men are looking for.

After worrying a bit about what to wear, and how to do my hair, and such...I ended up just going as myself. I wore the same jewelry I always wear (simple earrings, necklace and my watch). I wore no more makeup than I wear on a typical day, and the same hairstyle I always wear. I dressed casually. I tried to be real and honest, and to just be myself. I had a good time, and enjoyed his company. There was chemistry, but he was a gentleman. Maybe he wasn't attracted to me, but I know that he saw the person he would see any day of the week. If that doesn't do it for him, that's fine with me. I'm too old to play games.

And as for AC's comments...mine are real, and after two kids they just aren't where they used to be. I can't compete with the fake ones... I'm hippy and always have been, and I don't fight that either. It's who I am. I may be fooling myself, but I still think there's someone out there who can accept me, at 43, in my 43 year old body, and not expect me to look like I'm 25.

June 14, 2006
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ready,

Congratulations on your date. I'm glad you dated a gentleman.

I know plenty of women in their 40s and 50s who are strikingly beautiful. They have a certain beauty that younger women usually don't. As long as a woman has a good character (which most women I've met have) and there's a certain chemistry there, whatever else she has or doesn't have suits me just fine, if you know what I mean.

Whatever a woman doesn't have reasonable control over doesn't count against her, in my book.

June 14, 2006
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seeker - I know I will have to wait in line...but will you marry me?

where are the men like you?

you just described me to a "T" - natural, girl next door, honest to a fault, good character and I put life before MONEY - and can't seem to find any guy who isn't more interested in having the biggest and best toys, despite their lack of ability to pay for them.

June 14, 2006
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I find Anan Caram's post quite interesting also, but as a woman I have to disagree with one thing. I have a very round posterior, it used to be smaller. The men I date told me that they prefer the very round/larger opposed to a small one. But then I guess they wouldn't have dated me if they liked the opposite. So, I don't think that one can make this generalization about big boobs and small butt is what they like. I have had my share of admirers/relationships. I think we women are the ones that like the small butt in men, at least the ones I know.

and, Alicat, I agree with your about seekerw, you read/hear that these types of men are out there, but we never seem to meet them, do we? I have asked that exact same thing--where are all these guys? At home on their computer?

June 14, 2006
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Ok, so if it's mostly chemistry and the simpler things that men are interested in, then how can we get a man to be interested? I mean, you can't just come out and say "hey, I think we could have some good chemistry here"

I am a very simple woman, don't wear a lot of make up, don't expose myself too much physically and I have a really hard time getting guys to talk to me. Am I hanging out at the wrong places? Cause all the men I've known always flock to the ones with their breasts hanging out and their platinum blonde hair even if it's frizzy!!

June 14, 2006
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Men are visual. End of story. They get attracted by "packaging." A true relationship requires something beyond "packaging." But alot make it, or there would be no marriages and no babies being born. So take heart, my young, female friends.

- Old Lady Strong

June 14, 2006
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Old Lady Strong, you are so sweet with those words. thank you

June 17, 2006
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Shy we might look at those types but the marrying type are more like you. I would not feel comfortable having a gf that exposed a bunch of skin.
I think the chemistry thing is found out by interacting. Its either there or its not.

June 17, 2006
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Shyshy,

Your comment ".... their breasts hanging out and their platinum blonde hair even if it's frizzy!! " (which is very funny btw) reminded me of a story.

I hope you find it as funny as I did....

One night I was out with my sister, who...when drunk....tends to say whatever comes to her mind. Anyway, there was a woman, much like you described (breasts, platinum, fuzzy) and she was pretty drunk and was giving my sister a hard time in a sarcastic, not really funny "joking" sort of way.

At one point, my sister had had enough. She leaned back in her chair, looked at this woman with one raised eyebrow and said, quite seriously I might add, ....."I will snap your hair like vermicelli"

I almost peed myself I was laughing so hard. The funniest part about it was that the comment went right over the woman's head.

To this day it still cracks me up every time I think about it.

Hope you enjoyed it as much as I did.

June 18, 2006
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My friend joined a discussion group and a guy there brought up THIS little gem:

"If evolution was real then there would not be any ugly people."

Which led to hours of "What is Ugly and what is Pretty?"

All this guy could come up with was "U know...Thin, with big boobs, and good skin! What you see on TV!"

I know that 99% of guys SAY that they want what the see in Play Boy but since each person is an individual no one person can tell another what "Attractive" truly is to THEM!

I HATE blond hair...I don't know what it is but I think that it just looks HORRIBLE on 99% of the people that have it, natural or bleach.

This goes TOTALLY against the grain of our nation's socialy acceptable idea of "Attractive". So is anyone going to tell me I'm wrong?

I hate Sourdough Bread... You LOVE it... Which one of us is right?

It IS a guarentee that no matter how "Attractive" you are on the outside you can be so ugly on the inside that unless your in a photo no one will give you a second glance...

Asthetics can only take you so far... and even then you are seen as totally different from each person looking at you.

When it all boils down to the Carbon Based Life Form and his genetic imparative to procreate science has found that there is only 2 things that truly matter... Being Symetrical, but not TOO symetrical...and the person doesn't smell too much like you or your parents do. THAT IS IT!

EVERYTHING else, clothes, hair, eyes, is he a breast or butt man, EVERYTHING else is determined by each person.

And I'm not even going to GO INTO Fetish's...

That would take FAR too long...

So keep up the hope...no matter what you look like or the extent of your intelect there are HUNDREDS of people out there that are looking for a person JUST LIKE YOU!

Why else would there be so many Fetish Websites out there?

There is ALWAYS someone else into whatever floats your boat...

Hope this caused some deep thoughts!

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Acryforhelp- you brought up some interesting thoughts. I guess there is no generalizing in what men look for a lifelong mate. I guess when I asked the question I was just trying to figure out how to attract someone I like and do it right. Everyone's thoughts have been helpful yet disappointing. I guess it would be easier if there was just one way to make a guy love you. From all the answers I've been getting it's a little bit more uncertian, even if it's more true to myself.

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