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What do you do about people who start treating badly
July 2, 2007
12:31 pm
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I moved this past weekend. The rental manager on the house I moved out of happens to be R's mother. She has turned so "professional" on me and is treating me as if I were any other person off the street. Giving me a list of things that must be done. Mow the grass, deep clean the house, etc. Now the entire time I lived in the house it was never completed. Now she has another renter coming in and R has to finish it. I know I need to disentangle myself from these people but it hurts that they are being hateful to me when I have done nothing to deserve this kind of treatment. I told someone the other day what was going on and their reply was of course they are acting this way they at (Surname) and they are all liars and cheats. What did you expect?

Bitsy

July 2, 2007
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Hey Bitsy~

I don't like the janitor of my building either. Ever since I moved in here, I've been doing lots of voluntary works to her....attending monthly board meetings and annual meetings, voting even when I understood nothing, writing articles in the newspaper, gardening, participating in special events preparation such as Xmas party, cooking etc. When it comes to her, she is a very cold person, unfriendly, unappreciative of what I've always done, and even evil person as I've discovered lately.

Thankfully, she is leaving very soon, which I consider as an answered prayer. What I have done and learned after so many years is....try to alienate yourself from her. Keep it strictly business & formal! Pay your rent, be obedient to her rules even when they're too strict and do your part so that she has nothing to blame you for or accuse you of.

We can't force people to love us even when we are kind, generous, involved and even do more than our fair share.

All the best!xoxoxo

July 5, 2007
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Well, here is the update. I moved last weekend. I cleaned the house on Monday, M (his mother) called me Tuesday about doing the walk through. She had a whole list of things that still needed to be done. Believe me, the house was clean. I said I would walk over to R's and get some cleaning products and clean it again. M told me I would not. He was not home. I said something about C helping me and M said C is not going to clean this house. You have imposed on them ever since she has been here. If she isn't watching your daughter, she is helping you clean a house. I asked about all the things I had done for C since she has been here. I was told I had done that voluntarily. She then asked when I was going to get the house cleaned. Then she had a fit and told me to forget it she would hire someone to clean it. I went and bought stuff to clean again, and did the yard again. I saw R come home and walked over to ask him what was going on. He then told me that I was a user and had used him and his mother and taken advantage of them. I have never been talked to the way that I was talked to on Tuesday. I haven't checked back with her to see if the house was clean enough this time and if she was going to refund my money or not. I figure my self respect in not contacting either one of them is worth more that the $500 deposit that I am due back. C did call me yesterday to check on me and tell me that she heard what had happened and that if she hadn't wanted to help me she would have told me. She apologized that they did me the way they did. I know I shouldn't trust her. She told me that she thinks I can do better than R. She keeps stressing to me that she has no intentions where he is concerned. She told me to run and not look back. Somehow it means more coming from her because I know that she has known him a long time and does consider him a friend. She said she was dependent on him right now but that he was a jackass and she told him so. She called me again today to make sure I was OK.

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July 8, 2007
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Help me. I am lonely and depressed today. I called and invited some friends over for dinner last night and they couldn't come as they had already accepted R's invitation to come down to the condo for dinner. I haven't heard from the wife of this couple today and I thought I would. I don't know whether to call her or not. I don't want to look like I am fishing for information, but I wish she would call me just to say hi. I am so confused. I loved this man so much. I feel like I have been surgically removed from his life and that I never existed. I dreamed about him last night and in the dream it was so good to be near him but then my daughter popped into the dream and said Mommy don't go to him. The wisdom of a child eh? I loved him like I loved no other. For the past few nights I have been going to sleep repeating over and over that I hate him. I know it isn't true but maybe if I can convince myself that I hate him I can get angry enough to get over him. I haven't spoken to him since this past Tuesday. I read the threads here and know I shouldn't contact him and I am trying very hard not to, but I would be lying if I didn't admit to wanting him to try to contact me. Why is he hurting me like this and why do I care.

Bitsy

July 9, 2007
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You don't want to hate him, Bitsy. That won't resolve the hurt you feel.

Don't try forcing yourself to feel anything. It only make the real feelings store up like a powderkeg underneath, and when they explode, it hurts ten times worse.

The "surgically removed from his life" comment ... I know exactly how that feels. It's a pain like no other, isn't it. I'm so sorry. No one deserves to feel like that. It cuts right through you. The person who matters so much to you, and to whom you thought you truly mattered, acts as though there is no one more insignificant.

I hope you can pick yourself up and know how significant you truly are. Just because someone can't recognize it.... well, that makes a fool of them, really ... not of you.

Take care. Hope you can feel a bit better today.

((((((Bitsy)))))))

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