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What are the option???
July 24, 2007
3:17 pm
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Hi

Im just about the phone my boyfriend back.

We are both meant to be going on holiday tomorrow. Yesterday, he started coming down ill with fluey symptons

When I phone him back today, im just thinking what are the options.

Should I cancel the holiday on behalf of both of us. Is this codependent.

Should I go without him?

Should I find someone else to go with

I have not phoned him back yet, with alternative options.

Just wanted to know what I should do, cause ive never been in this situation before. And I can be very codependent, when my partner gets ill.

Your reply would be appreciated.

xx

July 24, 2007
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Is it something that you were really looking forward to? Are there non-fundable stipulations involved?

Going by yourself or inviting someone else might very well be some options here. Just talk to him about it and about your thinking about either going alone or with someone else since he is coming down with the flu.

July 24, 2007
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what do YOU want to do??????

how about finding out how he feels first, then discussing the options?

could you resechedule?

This is a tough call - codep. me would say cancel, so you don't hurt his feelings.

depending on the activity - I may not want to go without him.

but if I did go, I may feel guilty for going without him.

and part of me wants to be considerate and think how he would feel if I went alone?

soooooooooo, I am not much help.

I would say -

try to reschedule

and if you can't

talk to him and find out how he feels...maybe he'll be ok with you going alone or with someon else?

July 24, 2007
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Thank you to you both.

Have had a chat, and have decided dont want to go without him. And dont want to go with him, if he has the flue. I definitely, dont want to catch this.

Will try and reschedule time together.

I will take time out for me tomorrow.

This communication, thing feels so good. I cant believe im with someone so lovely and healthy. Makes me love him even more.

Thank you both.

xx

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