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What about being alone?
December 29, 2003
10:27 am
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In being alone, you can learn about yourself.

Relationships are the perfect feeding ground for procrastination and denial. Ie - the co-dependent relationship. Both parties denying their faults and projecting onto the other... and so it goes...

December 29, 2003
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In begin alone you are forced to live with yourself and your faults, as well as your gifts!

December 29, 2003
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Good Morning Artist2,

I found when i left home that the hardest part of being alone was being lonely. I never made time to make friends outside of work and that was the hard part for me. If i took the time to do that instead of taking care of everyone else being alone would have been okay. I'm one of these people that could be with 5 people or 500 and still feel alone.

Have a good day

Blondee

December 29, 2003
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Hum...

I'm one of eleven kids... I LOVED being alone!

Z.

December 29, 2003
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I'm one of three and I cherish my privacy, my independence.

December 29, 2003
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When you grow up in a house with that many people, there is ALWAYS someone there...

Speaking of my family, I heard from my Dad yesterday - he said "everyone in this family is wondering why you are so angry with all of us."

AAAAAAAAAAUUUUUGGGGGHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!

December 29, 2003
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Are they in denial or something?

December 29, 2003
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When you're in a position where you feel you have to live alone, you do have to get acquainted with yourself. That is something I'm learning now, finally, to just enjoy time by myself. I'm just beginning to use it more constructively. Haven't really gotten to the point where it has become fun yet. I've taken things much too seriously for so long always pushing myself to study something, not wanting to feel I'm wasting time.

December 29, 2003
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Hi Artist,

I'm right smack in the middle of eleven kids. I "fix" everything for everybody.

If this give's you a clue. My Dad and one of my brothers were fighting. They live within five miles of each other in California. I live in Texas. Yet, I had to make the three way phone call to get them to talk, and mediate the entire conversation.

So, right now, my resolve has been that I'm no longer fixing these things for them. If they want to do whatever, then they have to do it - not call "good ole Zinnie" for everything.

Get the picture?

Z.

December 29, 2003
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Zinnie, yeck. What a situation. But you are contributing something positive - no? I can see where you'd feel misunderstood and taken for granted.

Tunbleweed, when I was alone, I got scared all the time. I got bored and scared that I couldn't keep myself out of trouble. I'm not all that good alone, but can see the benefits. It's the alternative to being in a co-dependent relationship, which is what happens to me. Maybe there's a way for it to work positively?

December 29, 2003
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Hi Artist,

That is the problem, I have to fix all of their problems, but when I have needed support - they all look at me and say "oh, no time, can't make it, etc." It has always been that way for many reasons. Can elaborate later... ready to go home!

Love,

Zinnie

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