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Went to my first CODA meeting
May 2, 2005
9:05 pm
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I went to my first CODA meeting last night. I almost chickened out at the last minute, but I went. It was pretty good to talk to people in similar situations as me. The more and more I learn about it the more I see myself as co-dependent. The funny thing is that when I was on my way home my ex called me saying he missed me, but that he is scared to start talking again because of my co-dependency. He is a recovering alcoholic, but has been sober for a long time now, but I still can't seem to get rid of my co-dependent behaviour and I drove him away with my jealousy and neediness. We talked tonight, and I know I have a long road ahead, but I am sssooo determined to recover from co-dependency. We are going to meet for a coffee tomorrow and have a talk, which I am really nervous about. I just want to stop trying to control him and stop being jealous and having to know where he is etc etc...I know it all in theory, but putting in into action is alot harder..any advice??

May 3, 2005
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hi Spice, and congrats on your 1st meeting. I did my 1st meeting over 3 years ago, and still go to meetings now. I have been coda most of my life and know that recovery doesn't happen overnite. Alot has to do with focusing on YOU and not worrying so much about HIM. I think the more you care about YOU the better things will
go with your relationship. Let your BF focus on his recovery and you focus on yours and take things slow, have balance in your life, have your own hobbies and the rest will fall into place. Good luck!!!

May 3, 2005
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Hi spice--

I went to my first meeting on Sunday night. I really felt comforted there, and appreciated listening to what others had to share.

I was too afraid to share because I thought I would start crying. I'm planning on going again this Sunday, and hopefully will have the courage to open up.

Congrats to you!


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