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was too good to be true, now she's not talking to us
February 5, 2005
4:12 pm
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HeadAche
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Well I guess my mother's surprising openness and seemingly calmness over our confrontation about her abuse was indeed too good to be true. She hasn't talked to us since. We've tried to call her but either the phone is off the hook, she won't answer it, or dad says she doesn't want to talk to us. She has stopped going to work too. Well there is absolutely no way that I am going to feel guilty over this, if that is what she is trying to do. Seems like she is trying to give an unspoken message but I'm not quite sure what it is. I have a suspicion that she wound up in the hospital the other day by the little bit dad will tell us. He won't talk to us about her either, we just know that she is not doing well. Too bad, we told her to get help and she talked as if she didn't need it. It's her choice. I'll try calling again in a couple of days but if she isn't willing, then I'm not willing to worry about her.

February 5, 2005
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HeadAche:

I'm sorry for the pain you and your sis had to endure; and now she's gonna act like a brat. How sad for you and your sis.

Why will your dad not talk to you about her if I may ask?

February 6, 2005
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Oh! So Sorry to hear!!!

Some information just takes awhile to process. Apparently your mother was somewhat in shock when you and your sister confronted her. You caught her at an open moment--her guard was down and she was honest and receptive.

She has had time to think and realize how clearly you remember the abuse and the impact it had on you. I'm sure she is having guilt...

Thank God you are protecting your children. You did the right thing.

Hope your mom comes out of it soon.
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February 6, 2005
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mamacinnamon, I'm not 100% sure to why dad won't talk to us about her. My hunch though is that he is afraid of my mom finding out or hearing him. The only thing I can do is pray for her now...the ball is in her court.

February 6, 2005
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Sometimes it takes a slap in the face to realize what you have done. I applaud your courage to speak out and especially to the person that needed to hear it the most.

My hopes is that she will not retreat but simply face what she has done and try to make the best of what is left of your relationship. You are to be commended for your actions and there is nothing to feel guilty about. You did what you had to do. Good for you.

~~fairy~~

February 7, 2005
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I have a lot of respect for what you and your sister did. Confronting someone who is also a member of your family is very risky, because the entire future of your relationship with each other hangs in the balance. I usually just avoid, avoid, avoid. And then lie and smile. Good for you.

I know it hurts, and its hard not to get drawn into the drama, but hold on to the fact that you did the right thing, and this is just one of the consequences of it.

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