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walking thru the pain
January 18, 2008
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I have been divorced for six months , seperated 1 year after 8 years of marriage.
I identify with bearcub the feelings are still so raw I'm so lonely not because I don't have people who care for me but because I was betrayed by a personality that probably never existed in reality. Charming when need be defensive, critical, and brutal when he didn't get his way. He and a "friend" female of course also moved in around the corner from me before we were
even divorced. I would drive by and see his
car overnite cruel, selfish,,no dignity.
I am so cold inside I don't really experience any feelings except pain and
disconnection to anyone who has experience
please answer it is so scary to feel this way

January 18, 2008
7:45 pm
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Welcome Shane333

I know what it feels like to be betrayed by a personality that probably never existed, and so do a lot of the people here.

Keep reading and keep posting, this place has helped me more than I can say.

January 19, 2008
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You are not alone. It's normal to feel this way. What you need to do now is what I call, "Damage Control". I'm 40 years old and it took me this long to realize who I am. I had some horrific experiences in my life and sometimes think I should write a book. Men and women can be cruel and insensitive, but that does not define you, just them. I have a friend that I admire so much because he rolls so easy with lifes punches. He just broke up with his girlfriend because she was seeing someone and I said,"I am so sorry", and he responded by saying,"I am me and she is she". Move on and do something you have always wanted to do. Live for you. Life is a magical thing and you will get through this.

January 19, 2008
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I too was used by an "N" for 10 years. Charming when he wanted something and cold, nonfeeling and noncaring when he didn't. He had many femal "friends" during that time and I was so naive I accepted his explinations of why they were his "friends". When I did question the friendships he would go into a rage and say it was non of my business. EXCUSE ME!! none of my business? Anyway, welcome to the site and everyone here will help you heal and understand what went on and how to get through it. YOU are not alone.

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