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July 24, 2007
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can anyone give me some advice on how i can learn to be more vulnerable when i go into my counseling sessions...?
i had a really rough one today where i just locked myself up and put up this protective wall so nobody could break it down and see how i really was feeling....

any ideas?

July 24, 2007
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Vulnerable--
I went to a lot of support groups to "learn" how to open up. It is hard because we are used to keep what's personal inside and also not always expressing our feelings. It's going to take you time to get to that feeling of opening up. It's about trust. I encourage to you look at a group that would be beneficial to what you are dealing with or want to deal with.

Good Luck with that.

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July 24, 2007
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Just visualize how much a minute your refusal to embrace pain is costing you and think of all the wonderful things you could be spending that money on? Sanity comes at a price, that no one should have to bear Insanity is counseling on public support.

July 24, 2007
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I went to therapy for years and Never opened up and was never 100% honest. There was a stranger. Someone I didnt know. Your reaction is normal. But keep going. If you are like me you are slow to warm up.

July 24, 2007
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thanks for the posts......i realized today just how afraid i am to open up..it is ridiculous, but yeah, i am very slow to warm up to letting people know my inner feelings..but i love my therapist, she is totally amazing so im hoping with time i will be able to open up and embrace my feelings....

July 24, 2007
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Try to write down your feelings in your notebook and take it with you when you meet your therapist. This is what I am struggling with right now - even tho I have no problem with vulnerability whatsoever. Read my thread "Feeling nervous by the approach of my encounter with my therapist." you might get some inspiration or even realize that you're not alone.

I wish you well!

July 24, 2007
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rasputin-thanks for that reply...and its good advice...i do write in my journal and let my therpist read it--she really likes it when i let her read my journals....and it helps us talk about things too..

but there is something else missing...its like i have the inability to be vulnerable....but like i said before i guess with time it will resolve itself...

and i read your post.....totally normal to be nervous/anxious..i still get nervous and anxious when i go talk to mine and ive been seeing her since february!

July 26, 2007
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For me, I could never be vulnerable in therapy....(kind of defeats the purpose) Then I discovered it was due in large part from my inability to be vulnerable and honest with myself FIRST.

So this is what I work at.

It's hard and scary sometimes - but I am finding that I am becoming my own gentle best friend in the process.

(Anyway, that's my slant.)

(((((HUGS))))))

July 26, 2007
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truthBtold...

thanks for that input....it in fact makes a lot of sense when i think about it...i may have never really been honest and vulnerable with myself.....so hopefully i can work on that too....and i was so vulnerable the other day in counseling and i have never been so afraid in my life....hopefully i can eventually overcome that fear...

July 26, 2007
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justmakinit9,

You are welcome. All of us here are on different paths and what works for some may not work for others.

I think that you are well on your way to overcoming your obstacles.

All the best!!!!!

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