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Very down. Need encouragement
January 26, 2005
10:15 am
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herekitty
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I am so confused. I've been reading Co-dependent no more and it is helping me out. But I am so confused. I was really depressed last week , couldn't even go to work and still have anxiety. I'm figuring alot out about myself. Still I am not sure about breaking out of a 4 year relationship just like that. I know I need to concentrate on myself but he has offered to help me in any ways I need but I am not sure if he can. I've ben staying at my mothers place for the last 5 days and am actually being a bit more active but am still full of anxiety. I've been doing evrything (laundry, bills, banking,driving everywhere, grocery shopping) and was very overwhelmed but I never voiced it to my significant other. Maybe it's my fault. Should I even care who's fault it is or isn't . He doesn't have his liscense right now, can I consciously leave him like that. Someone please, I need some help. I need to end it or go on because this anxiety is just killing me. I am not one who takes pills but I have been taking anxiety pills to help ease me. Maybe the pills are messing with me. HELP! SO CONFUSED!!

January 26, 2005
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here kitty,

I'm sorry to hear of your discomfort. Scott ecks first words in the book The Road Less Traveled said: Life is difficult. Nothing could be more truse than that. Look at all the crisis around us, people in jails, insitutions war over God! Imagine that muder over opniions on God! Its crazy.

Anyway, not to get off the subject... to deal with this difficulty we have various tools... some legitimate and some not.

Reading books, sharing, meditating, prayer those are the good things that hekp us deal. Sounds like you're doing that.

I try to remind myself when things get really tough, that thats just the way life is. The perfect lives we see on TV are not real...

We're all doing the best we can dealing wiht lifes difficulties and at the same time, trying to have some fun with it too. I mean after all, if we cant have any fun with it...

January 26, 2005
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herekitty,

Glad you are here.

The book is great isn't it. May I ask why you are separated? That aside you need to try to pick yourself up and get movin. Letting life pass you by like this is doing nobody any good. Without knowing the reason I can still tell you that sometimes life is hard. Face things. Take control. Pull yourself up and get healthy.

January 26, 2005
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Hey Kitty, glad you are still "functioning" in life, even though deep down you may be sad. This is YOUR life and you are in control of what you choose to do with it and who to share it with. You can't change your bf..only yourself. Keep reading, keep posting, and have the focus on YOU and your wants and needs.

January 26, 2005
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Thank you everyone. You all helped me feel a bit better. I guess I just expect people to tell me what to do and that is not right. I need to do what I think is right for me and it hurts so much and is very confusing.

January 26, 2005
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Why are you driving him around? Why doesn't he drive? You are not responsible for him only for yourself. A healthy relationship must be between equals or you can't have intimacy. Your relationship doesn't sound equal. Think about it.

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