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very confused and unsure
October 23, 2000
12:57 pm
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rc101
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Hello - I have a problem that I'm not sure what to do about. I met a woman on the internet at the beginning of the year. We immediately felt vey comfortable talking with each other and felt that we had known each other before. I had been praying for a very special friend and come to find out, she had also been praying for a special friend. I am single and have never been married. She is married and also has 3 children. We continued to chat on line and began talking to each other on the phone. We became very good, close friends. It is very easy to talk to her. About two months later, she went out of town to attend a conference and I met her in that town. We met each other for the first time. We spent three nights together in the same motel room and in the same bed. She never did attend her conference. We hugged and kissed each other many times. We got intimate, but never had intercourse. After the 3 days, we were both very sad as we left for our homes. After we got home, we called and talked to each other. We were both crying because we missed each other. I promised her that we would see each other again. About a month later, I came to visit her and her family. She picked me up at the airport against the wishes of her husband, although he wasn't aware that we had already met in another city. Of course, she couldn't tell him that. I visited there for about a week and left again. Again, we were both very sad and continued to talk. I promised her again that we would see each other again. About 3 or 4 weeks later, I moved to her state and to the same town. Her husband can't figure out why I moved. He is not very happy that I moved here. He thinks that I'm in love with his wife, which is true. He has never said that to me, but she has told me that is what he thinks. I am very close to her now in distance. The problem that we are having is that she feels very guilty and loves her husband. She would always tell me that she loves me and didn't want to make it without me. She hasn't said that in a while. She is very busy, but we used to do things together. She all of a sudden feels that we have to back way off and only talk to each other on occasion. She feels very self conscious in public about what others think and wants to keep her distance in public. She doesn't want to have a lot to do with me right now, because she says that we are in the same town and it's too much pressure on her. She's afraid that if she tells me to leave her alone, that I'll tell her husband and he'll leave her. I still love her very much and want to be very good, close friends with her. She says she thinks I should move and that hopefully we can become as close as we once were. I feel very close to her and feel like I can talk to her about absolutely anything. I know that if I move again, I am going to miss her terribly. I can't even think of trying to make it without her and being able to see her. She says that she loves her husband and doesn't want to lose him. I can understand that. She doesn't want to tell me that she loves me anymore, and thinks that she has to pull back from me quite a bit. I know she's married, but if I move I know that we are going to miss each other terribly. In the past, she made me promise her that I would never stop loving her and that I would never leave her. What am I supposed to think? If I leave, I'll feel like I'm letting her down and betraying a promise that I made her. I know she's scared and she would be totally devastated if her husband left her. He was divorced once prior to this because his first wife cheated on him. I feel very confused right now and like my heart has been ripped out. She has told me before that if we had met before she was married, that we'd be the ones that were a couple. She said that it just felt so natural for us to be together. I just want her to be very happy. I can't stand the thought of losing her. It just feels so good and right to be with her. I know that deep down she still loves me. I know I definitely love her and would do anything for her. I just don't know what to do. She said that if I ever told her husband, she would never, ever forgive me and would never have anything to do with me again. If I leave, I'm afraid I'll never see her again. I know we need each other's friendship, love and support. I keep comparing others to her and nobody is even close in comparison. She even knows what I think before I even think it. She said that I'll never find anybody more connected together than we are. I don't ever want to lose her and her friendship. I want to be close to her in every possible way. I feel so alone and afraid right now. She is the only person that means anything to me. She is my very best friend.How can I leave her. It is tearing me apart to even think of it. What am I going to do? Can anybody understand what I am feeling? I would really appreciate some help and advice. I just look at her and want to hold her in my arms. I know we used to do that on occasion, but she doesn't even want to touch me now. She says that it's just hard having me this close. Can somebody give me some help? Thank you.

October 23, 2000
1:04 pm
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Man, she is married. What do you think you should do. Her husband would probably kill you if he ever found out- Get on with your life, plus you say you were praying, pray for yourself and your adultrous sinning-

October 23, 2000
6:39 pm
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Hit the road Jack, this is a married woman, there is nothing in this future but pain and heart ache, get out and leave this problem to figure it out on her own, this is wrong very very wrong, she has children, she is married, she has a problem, cut it loose and run. Are you a home wrecker, do you need this I don't think so.

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