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May 28, 2007
11:22 pm
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changethinking
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Please help me. I am trying to change my life, and move forward. I have a job interview for a job tomorrow. It is really important to me.

My partner(the keep breaking up and getting back together partner) won’t stop the emotional abuse and I can’t focus my mind.

How do I block him out of my mind, even if it is just for one day so I can prepare for my interview and go to it tomorrow with a clear head?

I try not to talk to him, but then he apologises, says it wont happen again, i forgive him, then he upsets me. 5 days ago I was in tears really upset by some things that happen. He decided that he just HAD to choose this timing to tell me something that someone had done behind my back. I felt so betrayed, but was left questioning did it really happen or did he make it up.

Next was last night, and then again today. There is always some problem, or something I did wrong that he has to highlight and attack me for.

Today I wouldn’t do something that he wanted, and then he starts a big argument. He hurt me with this thing in the past, and I am reluctant to trust him. He said if I don’t trust him then he will swear that he will never ever speak to me again. Please note that this was another thing that didn’t need to be discussed now.

He is impulsive, and often picks bad timing, or just has to say things in my face just to make himself feel better. He always says sorry, but sorry doesn’t help me in situations when im falling apart. I have turned into an emotional wreak. I always crying! I never used to cry. But its like every 2nd time I talk to him he finds a away that brings me down.

May 28, 2007
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I can't offer you advice. I just want to wish you well in your interview tomorrow. Stay focused on all your qualities and just remember to breathe and be yourself.

May 28, 2007
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Do you live with him? Is he stalking you? Can you not pick up the phone? Tomorrow is soon... you may be able to avoid him until after then.

Make sure you get a good night's sleep. Just "fake it" with your partner and be nice and say you don't feel good and want to rest for the interview. You will talk later or something. Because all of that seems true enough, it seems like at this point you will end up talking to this guy again.

May 29, 2007
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Changethinking~

Good luck with the interview tomorrow!! Sprinkling AAC blessings towards your way : )

between now and the time of the interview try visualizing yourself feeling confident, looking confident...minus the toxic relationhip. How would you feel about yourself if he wasn't around to drag you down? Visualize yourself without him in your life...

... keep keeping on' trying to move forward, all the little steps you take today/tomorrow will get you just that much further ahead. Your heading in the right direction....

May 29, 2007
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Change...first things first. Put yourseelf first. Tune him out, go to a motel, go stay with a friend until you do your interview. Then please do some soul searching and ask yourself why you have up with this guy for so long...and why you let him put you down and abuse you. I find posting on this site really helps a lot. Good luck on your interview!!

May 29, 2007
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I hope your interview went well and you were able to keep your partner at bay... please tell us how you did!

best wishes,
ella

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