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May 12, 2010
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southern bell
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Hey yall!

hope all is well...

I have been reading your posts and threads daily, yet haven't been in much of a mood to post. im not sure why that is, exactly. it just is.

So, my 'best friend' and I have DEF put some distance in our relationship. the cool thing is, since I pulled away from her and expanded my circle of other friends and hobbies, she has kinds re-doubled her efforts to be there and to be present in my life. what's cool about it is...i no longer feel the need to always say 'yes' to her, to change my plans to suit her, to expect her to do or say anything anymore. i am much more able to just accept her for who she is and to detatch myself from her and her actions. pretty neat stuff. i also have the ability, at least better now than ever, to see her for who she really is..not for who i thought she was or wanted her to be. and that has made all the difference in the world. in doing this work and changing the way I handle and react to things, i am finding that my marriage is stronger than ever...we've been spending a lot more quality time together and im not attached to my phone like i used to be. i am now much more available for my other friends, too, which has been wonderful, to say the least. it's amazing what all i can be exposed to once i get my head out of others' asses!!

all of you helped me get here...

even though i know i have a long way to go with my co-dependency issues, i've come a long way from where i was 6 months ago....

for that im eternally grateful...

May 12, 2010
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I am very happy for you bell!

May 12, 2010
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right on BFG!!!

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question for you...and anyone else...do you think this 'up-phase' or whatever the hell you wanta call it is an illusion?? is it real?? is it lasting???

May 12, 2010
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I believe it is real. I also want to warn you that you are at the top of the hill right now. You may sink to a valley and be depressed. Don't be so hard on yourself if that happens. You know how to pick yourself up and climb back up the hill. I do it daily, weekley, monthly, sometimes even hourly. But once you know how to climb up the hill it gets easier the next time because you know where to put your feet so to speak.

Bitsy

May 12, 2010
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thanks for sharing

May 12, 2010
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I have many peaks with some valleys...I used to be stuck in the valley for a long time with no peaks...theraphy helped and so are antidepressants...I take half of one cause I am not really a huge fan of meds...its enough to keep me from crying constantly...for the most part...

I believe a positive attitude and wanting peace in my life is another huge factor to being content in life...to try to be well in spite of your problems...to not get your happiness from others but from within yourself cause people are human as you are...try to find the good in what hurts you...use that as a springboard to stay grounded...

Rememeber...as bad as things get, they often never stay constant...change is continous and part of life.

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