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up in smoke
July 14, 2000
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jokilg
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recently i caught my 10 yr old son smoking when asked if he did it he lied when i told him i saw him doing it he then confessed. we grounded him for a week no friends no tv etc etc. well now today he was caught smoking in his room with a friend when asked if he did he denied it until we told him we smelled the smoke and overheard him talking about getting a carton of cigarettes. i am very worried about this he is sooo young. i too had early rebellion but not this young. my husband and i are loving caring parents and we are very aware of what he does and who his friends are and not to lie. but this has gotten be worried. my husband quit smoking i still like to enjoy one once in awhile but do not flaunt my decision on the kids in fact i try not to smoke around them. what can i do or say to help him not to do this i feel like if i say dont do this he will want to do it all the more. is grounding really the answer. i have also asked him if anything is the matter but he says no. i know that i shouldnt smoke and that smoking around him would be bad but is that really the answer not smoking around him what makes kids smoke with parents who dont?? i dont want to say well i can but you cant speech but there is somethings that he just cant do at this age that are illegal for him but legal for me how do i explain that to him? is my quitting smoking really going to make him quit? any advise??? thanks, jo

July 14, 2000
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Talk to his pediatrician about this. If he/she is a good one, he/she will want to have a conversation with your son. A friend of mine went through this a few years back, and her pediatrician had a well thought out presentation he leveled on my friend's 12 year old son. Nothing like seeing the effects of smoking up close and personal to make a kid rethink a dumb decision. Good luck. Oh, instead of giving your son an opportunity to lie to you, just tell him straight up that you saw him smoking and that that behavior is not tollerated in your house. Don't ask him to answer a question you already know the answer to, especially since it is a serious subject. Just my views...Peace to you and yours.

July 17, 2000
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I started smoking when I was 14. My Dad smokes like a chimney, so all he did was tell me it's my body so I can do whatever damage I want.

Then he started getting sick. Emphysema, congestive heart failure. Four heart attacks and two strokes. It was easy for me to quit after that. The American Heart Association has some info you can get mailed to you on how to talk to your kids about smoking. I hate to say it, but if you smoke and he knows it, what you say to him to try to stop him will have little or no effect.

You could take him to a nursing home to see the effects of longterm smoking. There's also a website called http://www.thetruth.com which is all for kids who are against smoking cigarettes.

July 26, 2000
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When i was a child and got caught smoking, My dad was at the kitchen table in the morning with an un-opened carton of smokes and made me sit down and smoke a smoke one after the other till i got sick or all the smokes were gone.Then if i still wanted to smoke, there would be another carton waiting the next day.It worked on me, till i got into the bar scene,but at that age, i was old enough to make my own decisions.I smoke now, so who's to say we get smarter as we get older.

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