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unhappy marriage
November 26, 2000
6:07 pm
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Murph....I don't think bailing out is always the answer...but 20 years and no emotional or physical realease for..(what Autumn 10?..5?) I can't imagine 5 years in a marriage without out sex....

If she has tried to reach him and he isn't willing to be reached....what kind of example for the kids is this relationship? It's not like she'd be bailing after a year....how long does any partner have to put up with this kind of stuff?

I';ve been married for 22,years, 5 kids, I have two jobs and still...I don't think anyone male or female should put up with one second of abuse...even the covert quiet silent abuse...


November 27, 2000
6:42 pm
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Murph, it probably is hard being a man in society today, but, I don't think that society ditates to a man not to be intimate or caring with his spouse. I don't think society has all to do with my husbands problem!!

Janes wow 5 kids and two jobs, I admire you tremendously!!!
You're RIGHT it has been quiet silent abuse that I've been experiencing...When I hear this kind of advise it makes me realize more and more that I am completely waisting my time trying to change my husband ~ he can only change when he recognizes the problem himself.

November 27, 2000
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The buckets of cold water are falling on my head faster than I can keep up with them. I am almost excited at the prospect of possibilities, and yet so sad. Its fearful to admit that we were wrong, and must take more steps to get it together. I took so much energy for me to leave in 12/98 and so much work to find my self, through the hardship of lonliness, and poverty, but I did, and gosh I just can't live with comprimise any more. Once you hear some thing once you feel something you can't un learn it. I know what it feels like to be free, and the cost for not being me, or being true to what I believe to be true, and right, is more than I am willing to pay. This is hell, with no doors, thank God I can fly. I got the message right after I arrived, and really should have exercised more cautious thinking before I gave it all away, but I know now what I must do, just wish I was not so tired. After I do a few things, I know all will be right with my girls, and strange how God chooses to deliver the message, there are gigantic holes in my heart, gigantic clouds of confusion with my mate, my vocation, and who I am and what I want though is perfectly clear, now I must make it happen. Where is the magic wand?

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