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UNDER PRESSURE: ANY IDEAS
June 27, 2007
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Hi everyone.

Im so snowed under at the moment with my work. All I seem to be able to do do is FOCUS, ONE THING AT A TIME, AND SELF CARE.

Any other ideas would be appreciated. I know this shall pass.

Thinking of your support.
love xx

June 27, 2007
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Inheritated trait from my Dad that I have, that others actually laugh at? Yet, manages to keep me focused with all I do? Make a daily list, cross off what is done. What is not? Carry over to the next day, and put that up to the top.

Good luck!

Z.

June 27, 2007
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Sending you hugs and support. It sounds like what you are doing is a good plan already.

I'm overwhelmed too- just trying to get by until it passes as well.

No other advice, just wanted to let you know you are not alone.

June 27, 2007
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Focusing on one thing at a time and self care is a full plate.

Be gentle with yourself and revel in your accomplishments...........

June 28, 2007
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Thank you all for your kind thought.

Am starting to find it all a struggle, but still hanging in there.

The things im finding difficult at the moment, are the fact I want to eat on my feelings, comfort food. I know in my heart that this is not the answer. I know its easy to say dont be hard on myself, but in many respects I have to be disciplined because its a thin line for me.

If I do not look after myself - in three weeks when this is over, I will be ill. This is a common thing for me at the end of every term. I m determined not to get ill due to neglecting my health, but Ive got to be honest it is difficult all this self care stuff, and at the same time be their for my students.

This is what happens in me, my inner child gets stressed and then wants comforting,and loads of attention. I really dont know how to give this to myself (immediately) when Ive got so many other responsibilities in my life at the moment.

This will all be different in about 3-4 weeks, when I break up, but I ve got important stuff that has to be done at the moment, and my inner child is screaming out for all the comforting and attention i can give her. I dont have the time for all this stuff.

I dont know whether you understand exactly what im talking about, but your thoughts are appreciated.

Basically, Im giving out loads in my teaching. Students are needy because of their exams, and Im needy cause im giving out so much.

At present im putting my feelings on hold, as i know this will be different in three weeks time.

Does anyone have any answers to this eating on your feelings stuff, as I really dont want to act out on this. Please help!

love x

June 29, 2007
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CTC~ I'm guilty of the same thing. I just love to work that sometimes I feel my co-workers don't like me coz I am hardworking that I don't seem to take my eyes of my screen, only to go to washroom and get some coffee.

Ironically, I'm surrounded with more relaxed funny folks. I try to learn to have some balance, even tho I admit it's difficult.

I just hope other folks don't see me/you as stressed person. What do yo think?

You're not alone!

June 30, 2007
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Hi Rasputin

I definitely do not see you as a highly stressed person. You come across as very level headed, and caring. And to be honest I dont think I come across as a manically stressed person. Im only discussing the internal feelings I have, so i do not buy into them. However, I am very dedicated, and love what I do. But I go through this every year (end of term ) these feelings, and to be honest that is all they are. The hardest part is not buying into the negative, because in the old days that is what i would have done, given all my power over to them when I was busy.

Ive got wonderful people in my life and I really am very grateful for them. Most of the time I have a wonderful time and am in balance, but at mo there is demanding stuff going on.

Today was exceedingly difficult. When I went to college to teach, I felt really in control, happy, and loving everything I do. Then half way through the day I started going through the answers to test papers with students. All 7 students were very happy, etc and laughing. However, there was one student that was getting more aggitated, and distanced herself from everyone. I let her have her space, but I could see this imaginary steam coming from her body. ( I think i have mentioned before that I sense other peoples anger)

Anyway, the inevitable happened, and she started going off on one, about exam questions, and how they were worded wrongly etc. In my heart I thought im not going to buy into this, she is taken her stresses out on me. But there is only so long you can listen to someones anger. So that is exactly what I did - listen to her in front of the whole class. I then asked her if she had finished, and called it time for a lunch break. I resumed my internal composure over lunch - but I was ANGRY, she was dumping her stuff sideways at me. And then at the end of the day, I set my boundaries and told everyone that I was not prepared to go through the same issue again in the following weeks.
I am there to teach and not debate what is right and wrong about the syllabus and test papers. I felt so good after setting my boundaries, and you know what I meant it.

There have been so many times in my life when I have been too nice, where niceness was abused, and it is not going to happen again so easily. Infact this issue, has made me realise that the people who get my attention are people who treat me with respect and love, cause this is the type of thing i give out. Life is hard enough as it is, without having CRAP people in my life.

Today I value me. Thank you god.

And thank you Rasputin for being such a lovely intuitive person. Thanks for responding.

Love to all x

June 30, 2007
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Hi courage

last semester I was so overwhelmed with school that I initially had no idea how I was going to get through it. I remember last January coming home from orientation going 'what on earth did i get myself into?' I felt like I was climbing mt Everest with the sheer volume of work that lay ahead of me. In terms of time this translated into 60-70 hours of work per week, not including study time. And I still had a house and my daughter to take care of.

I found that I have to let some things go. you simply cant stress over the little things. I paced myself. I didn't bother with cleaning or dishes. if something couldnt wait (like bills) I would put everything else in the back of my mind and just focus on that one task before switiching gears. Then if I did have an occasional day off I could focus on the other things I had put off and catch up on that. I also had a calendar, and every day that passed I would cross it out. That way I could visualize how much I had put behind me. Each day crossed off meant one day closer to the end of the sememster. It helped so much.

Well, I got through those extrememly tough months, and I actually did quite well for all the stress I had to go through. And the sense of accomplishment I felt at the end was well worth all that work!

Good luck with your work. hope this help.

DM

June 30, 2007
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Hi Desert

What a lovely name. Thanks for your reply. Great advise. Ive just realised, yes im trying to do too many things, and need to priorities things that dont need to be done, and that are not as important as my students exams. At the moment they are a top priority to get them through their exams. So I will aim to stay really focused with them

I also realise, that my panic inside, is due to not trusting god, and being scared of not having enough time to do all that I want to do. So now I know that, helps to have a bit more faith.

This week im really going to try and just focus on what needs to be done, rather than trying to be SUPERWOMEN. Its taken me a while to realize this, but their you go im not perfect i guess.

xx

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