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Uncontrollable Anger caused by abuse
November 25, 1999
8:58 pm
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I put up another message under abused children but I wanted as much help as I could get. I am a 22 year old woman who has suffered like many of you of abuse. I have been sexually, some physical and mental abuse. Throughout my life I have been strong, I had done well in school and also for a time attended college. However, while living at home last year and attending college my parents were busted on drug charges. Since this time I returned to school but struggled with myself. I have of late been angry and emotionally distant, I am driving my family crazy with my mood swings and lashes of anger. I am terribly unhappy and all my old ways of controlling my life do not work. My one outlet school I can no longer retreat too, and my friends don't really understand me. I feel lost I have made an attempt as I will be moving from the house I grew up in to live LA. I hope this will pull me out of my slump and put me on the road to recovery. However,I still think that I need help before driving my caring part of the family and friends away. It would be great to hear from someone who has been in a simlar situtation or just has some advice. It would help to hear from others as I have never asked for help before.

November 26, 1999
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pop,

You're in a spot, where very unfortunately, many of us have been.

You're certainly wise with even just two things you mentioned above:

1) You're discovering a link between abuse and anger
2) You don't want to drive away the caring family members (this is a *very* important thing to remember)

What can you do?

Coping, communicating, and staying somewhat on track with what you want & need to do, are important ingredients in getting through this.

I wish there was an easy fix, or a concrete set of steps. It's just plain tough, but important to keep your goals in sight.

I can say though, that you will get through it. Give yourself lots of time, and limit your frustration.

- SC

November 27, 1999
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Thank you for your help, it is wonderful to hear from people who have been through this situation. It was hard to realize I had a problem but once I did I felt shameful, angry and then it turned into relef. I am still weary of getting "professional" help but know it is necessary before I hurt my self and others. If anyone has suggestions on where to start, please let me know?

December 7, 1999
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pop,

Getting professional help was one of the hardest things I ever did, but it was also one of the best things I ever did for myself. I am 18 and in college right now, but a year ago I was very lucky to even get through high school. I have been sexually, physically and emotionally abused also. Less than 14 days after I turned 18 last year, I was so desperately in need of help that I slit my wrists. I didn't cut deep enough that I was in any danger, but it did wake me up and made me realize that it was my choice to get help. I guess I realized that if I didn't want help, nobody could help me. March 3 of last year I was admitted into a hospital for depression and stayed there for almost three months. I went to the hospital on my own; and I started a new life. I've been in therapy ever since then. It's not easy to accept help from others, and I've had to realize that therapy doesn't solve all your problems. But it can help you deal with them. The only thing is, you have to be ready to get help. It sounds as if you are, but only you can know. All I can say is... don't give up. There is always a light at the end of the tunnel.

God bless.
mnms

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