Oh Moey, I wish I could take away the pain. I don't think it will ever be understandable in that it is just not something you would have considered doing to him. You are JUST NOT THE SAME as he is and people think differently. Why he thought his affair had nothing to do with you is just so justifiable if that is how you think -- TOTALLY ABOUT YOURSELF!!!

I'm so impressed that you got him to leave as soon as you did. That says alot for how much he realizes about you. He knows he indulged himself and ruined his marriage with it. He knows there's no excuse for it. Any remorse he is showing now was ABSENT for all those months he was betraying you. Sorry, I didn't mean to drag up all the hurt any worse, but I can reinforce some of the anger you should feel towards him and be aware of how you are allowing your gentle nature to take over enough to forgive him.

Did you buy some new sheets and sleep ALL OVER them yet? Please read the hardest parts of your threads again. There were alot of good things said. Time does heal, but time also alows you to say it's OK and let him come back when there's been no real remorse or resolution.

What are you thinking?