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Unable to find help anywhere for pedophilia
December 11, 2000
2:13 am
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I'm desperate! I am addicted to looking at kiddie porn. I don't know if I would ever hurt a child myself, but I'm a good person and I want help. Unfortunately, with so much public hatred expressed against pedophiles, it scares me to reach out for help. I understand much about MY problem - it stems from depression. When on medication, my interest in kiddie porn disappears, but I feel that there are underlying issues. So, do I dare seek out help when my "problem" is essentially "under control"? Why take the risk of being identified as a pedophile? The public outrage against "pedophiles" only convinces me not to take the risk.
It's unfortunate that there is no desire to try to understand this illness and treat it. Until that happens, children will remain vulnerable. Jailing pedophiles is a band-aid solution, the root of the problem is never dealt with.
I look forward to reading your responses. Gay goose

December 11, 2000
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Do you dare seek help when your "problem" is essentially "under control"? Your situation is distressing to you, and you do not feel "right" about this (or at least that is what I am getting from the tone of your post). Seems like you should be able to get help for yourself and your own well-being.

I don't know of any specific groups, but I do remember seeing a site for many different ___-anonymous groups (fill in the blank). There may be one for pedophiles as well.

Good luck and peace.

December 11, 2000
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I agree with you when it comes to the jailing. In all cases this is not the solution. Unfortunately, I have not been able to find any help for my mate. This is one of those issues that is black and white. Not grey. When it comes to court you either did or didn't. I do not fully agree with this. Then again, before all of this destroyed my life...I would have agreed to the above. My mate started going to SAA meetings. He is relating to others and their sharings. He has been unable to share about the main issue at hand. It is a step. If you find any help...PLEASE let me know. I will do the same. Also, my mate is a good person. I don't know what happened. You can read my postings: my mate abused my daughter.

December 27, 2000
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You desperately need to get some kind of help immediately. Your situation can worsen and you may end up in jail someday. Just think of all the emotional damage you may cause a child. I understand you may be humiliated but if you get the help people will respect you. Especially if you are trying not to hurt an innocent child who has nothing to do with your addiction. Please get help! I was molested as a child and it is not something you want to put another person through. PLEASE!!!!

December 27, 2000
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I get that you know that this is not an acceptable practice. The question is why do you continue, knowing this is not acceptable to you or to most of society? Just how long do you think you can continue toying with the idea before you act out? So why toy with it? It is like a married person flirting, a diabetic in a candy store, a drug addict in the alleys passing through watching the deals? I firmly believe that you can't be in the jungle to long before you become one of the animals, if you get the analogy. Most of the child molesters that I worked with when they were incarcerated, had been victims them selves, they had a distorted picture of right and wrong. The efforts at sexual contact appeared early in their life with other children, depending upon what age they had been molested. Some truly did not understand the what was wrong with the behavior due to the feelings of love confused with it, as well as some of the authority figures compounding the problem, with rape, or improper advances. Since you are questioning this discovered aspect of your behavior, get help before you justify your actions. There are many therapists that you could call anomonusly to discover their attitude, regarding your attraction, before you subject your self to their personal opinion, or rejection.. Even with beastiality, there are support groups, but then again there are groups that will support your interest too, should you wish to follow through. Ask your self what this is all about, I bet you know the answer. I wonder if there was not so much data available to you in the privacy of your own home, if the subject or curiosity would have come up? Regardless, do us all a favor and controll your behavior, for the sake of the innocent please.

December 27, 2000
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First of all, I want to congredulate you on admitting that you have a problem. This is the most important step to take when you find that you need professional help.Second thing you need to do now is to not to think about your problem to much and seek a good counsoler in your area or go to any M.H.M.R. agency and ask for help.In the mean time,ask your self why and how tour are having this thoughts. Every time you have this thoughts ,ask yourself what can I do to stop this with out hurting some child? Do it now!Go get help yesterday!!

December 27, 2000
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Let's look at the addiction part...whether it's gambling , kiddie porn, sex, drugs or saving pennies...what / why /etc are the motivators here.

Fiind a counselors to tlak to about 'ADDICTIVE" BEHAVIORS...worry about the rest later after you find a therapist you can trust.

Obsession/Compulsion/Adddiction all can be dealt with
good luck

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