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Tuesday slip-up
August 2, 2005
3:54 pm
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kjalone
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I was doing so good--four days, no contact, then I two-wayed him this morning, and he responded and wanted to come see me tomorrow. Of course I said yes. I don't know why I can't say no. I am eternally hopeful, I guess. I'm all psyched up to see him and when he comes over it totally depresses me. I feel like an idiot. I know better, but I can't seem to stop myself. When will it end?
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August 2, 2005
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Kj -

You ask "when will it end?"

Easiest answer - it will end when you make a choice to take care of yourself and make a true effort to end it. It will only end when you end it. Only you have that power.

Don't beat yourself up. Start again. 1 hour, 5 hours, 12 hours, 1 day, etc.......

August 2, 2005
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I agree with Tracy Kjalone, it will take some time as it took with me. Keep yourself busy. Each time the urge comes, replace it with something you love like bubble bath, coming here on board, fixing yourself nice dinner with your favorite recipe....so many other beautiful ideas.

Forgive yourself and start over. I did lots of goofy things and forgave myself and started over and ...IT WORKED, AND IT WILL WITH YOU HONEY!

~LOVE, RAS~

August 2, 2005
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good advice tracey!!! and yes, start over again....can you now break your
meeting 2morrow, cuz most likely nothing has changed, you just may be
missing him, but deep down, there is a reason why you both broke up.

August 2, 2005
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I know exactly where you are coming from because I have been there. Letting someone back in long after you should. Missing them and wanting to see them at all costs. Through this site and counseling I've learned it is like an addiction. We are addicted to the feeling they bring us, and when we have no contact we have withdrawals. It can be the most uncomfortable, painful feeling in the world, and so of course we want to see them or have contact if it means helping ease that feeling, even if just for a little bit.

The only problem is that each time I end up feeling worse. It's a terrible cycle. But I understand, because I find myself in it time and time again. We are willing to put up with something bad for us just to get that "fix".

I suggest keep posting here, keep getting support, and eventually you will have enough and mean it.

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