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trying to do the right thing
March 8, 2005
1:53 pm
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I'm sitting here thinking I should pack my things and go. I feel so guilty but I know if I try to talk to him he will get angry and I don't want him to think badly of me. We have both tried for so long to make it work but really need to make my self work. I want to leave a note to avoid any anger. Why can't it be cordial and kind knowing that we love each other but aren't good for each other. I know we are at times but we have so much to deal with an ADHD child who isn't mine. The stress he feels trying to care for him. My inability to help due to the child's resentment that I am not his mom. I have been in his life for 4 years and can't get through to him. His own dad will just take off and leave me with him because he can't deal with him. I've suggested counseling but he won't go. He drinks to escape from it and I find myself encouraging it to a point because than there are no confrontations. Really unhealthy way to live. Do I just leave?

March 8, 2005
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I am sorry that no one has posted yet. My wife and I are separated right now and it hurts me to say this but it is something that I really needed to wake me up. I am finding out things about myself and working on my own problems and I never would have without this time apart. I would say to talk to a counselor or clergy because they can give you better advice. If you do decide to separate please make it a point to tell him the exact problems and not to dance around any opf it. It has taken my wife 9 weeks to tell me certain things because she did not want to dump too much on me at once. I would have been so much better off just knowing what the problems were because I can't fix what I can't see. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

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