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September 4, 2005
10:03 pm
elizabeth anne
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I fell in love with a co-dependent that is now with another co-dependent and realize I also am co-dependent. Here is my story.

It has been a roller coaster with my boyfriend of over 2 years. He was involved with a manipulater that verbally and physically abuses him. We have broke up numerous times because she does something that makes him want to rescue her. Evicted from her apartment, arrested, attempted suicide. Everytime she gets in trouble he goes back. For me, I never set boundries, I was never able to express my feelings.

The current situation is he is getting help and realizing what she is doing to him. He hates his life with her and is very limited in what he can do. He is in a situation where he wants a life for us and trying to find a place for her. She is living with him now. He wants it to be for the last time. In the meantime I am working on me, opening up more, gaining more self confidence and trying to set boundries.
I am so afraid she will try to harm him once he has set things in place.

She makes him feel guilty and she takes no responsibility for herself. She blames everything on him. I just wonder, being the situation he is in. Can he really resist her again when she gets herself in trouble. I want so much to believe we can make it. I know he is miserable right now and does anything and everything to get out of the house. He is a prisoner in his own house. How does one get over the manipulation???

September 4, 2005
10:10 pm
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Thats a tough situation to be in, for the both of you. Your BF has to learn that he's being manipulated and see the signs when they appear. It's great he's getting some help in that area.
I can't offer much help on this topic,
but we're hear to listen and to be your support system if you need us.
Take care,

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