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trapped in love
August 10, 2000
1:06 pm
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strangeangel
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i dont know what to do, i thought i found the love of my life.i justed turned 18 and i met a 27 year old women who at i did not know was 27 and she did not know i was 18.well the point is my mother rejected the whole thing and so i left my job,my school,and for 4 months she supported me and now shes fed up, i got ajob and i give her every pay check i love her so much but most of the time she treats me like shit.it hurts so bad inside my life has bassically been handed over to her.

August 10, 2000
3:54 pm
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This is not a good thing I don't believe, sorry but at 18 you are practically a victim of this woman. The difference in age is not as signifigant as the level of maturity, and I know it must have been flattering, and felt good, and then again there was maybe a strong stand against mom who propelled you into rebellion, but cut the tie, get your life back, you don't need to hand over your money, what are you a love slave? Take back your power, talk to a counselor, get into school. Ask your self, why she is dating men almost 10 years younger, is she not mature enough to meet,and attract men her own age? Does it feel like surgot parent? Is that what you mean by treat you like s***?

August 11, 2000
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Molly, I disagree with some of what you said. I for one married a man ten years younger and I my maturity level is high and so is his.
The only problem with an age difference is the degree of maturity and whether this woman was in a position of authority or power when the relationship started...this is different.
Love happens despite age and can last.
BUT and a big BUT sick relationships also happen despite age and that is what seems to have happened to you strangeangel. I dont understand why you are giving her so much power, she obviously enjoys controlling you and you have given up yourself for this relationship. This is all unhealthy and you should definintely get back into school, there is no way you can have self esteem or joy if you have totally given up all that is you. YOu seem to have little orno boundaries. You need to deal with this

August 13, 2000
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Men and women mature at different levels at different times, I am sorry, but at 18 man or women, it is far to young to be so controlled, I think that a good man woman match can happen with a difference of 10 years or so and can be a good thing say a woman 28 and a man 38, but there is so much maturing between 18 and 28 for both sexes that I cannot support it, at 18. I'll take a stand on this no matter how lucky you may have been. Relationships so young with most of us so unprepared can cause such emotional damage in the growth process. Why start to collect unnecessary baggage when there is a world to see, and education, intellect development, self awarness, to obtain, that at that age, we have no concept of, because we think we know it all, it is to early in life at the age of 18 to become trapped and confused. No offense, but it sounded to me, similar to running from a controlling mommy, to another mommy, if he had been more mature prior to cohabitation, he would have stronger boundry lines, and not been in the emotional dispare, that he is. You speak of love, love takes time, history, and maturity to develop, different from lust,you did not say how old you are or your mate, or how long you have had this relationship, Just an opinion

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