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transvestite husband
September 25, 2007
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mousey
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Hi all,
I really do appreciate all of your input, concern & support. I know I'm in this alone (kind of). I will be the one to make the final decision. And I truly know in my heart what that will be. I don't think he will be able to stop. I think you are correct he will resent me. I am prepared for that. I am seeking a better job so I will be able to support myself. I know the outcome will be divorce but he begged me for a chance and in respect for him and all the years we've spent together I will give him a chance. It's not easy but nothing in life seems to be. And the worst part is I still love him and I feel sorry for him. My problem I guess.

September 26, 2007
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mousey,

you are a strong person that will make it. getting on your feet (like i have been doing) empowers us to make decisions for our good.

so sorry for the loss of your husband...it is like a death....when i found out about my family member and my good friend it was like there was a death...the old person we knew goes away and this new persona appears. their secrets out in the open allows them to move into who they want to be and think they are. then we are left to sort out our feelings.

it was proabably too tempting for him not to want to associate with others that think, dress and feel the same way he does. i did not go to the site but i just know that it had to hurt you. it isn't what you signed on for. take heart that you will make it. i am praying for ya....just take good care of you.

i agree with taj that there are many ways to cheat...and that in itself is another problem that attaches itself to what you are going through. be at peace with your decisions and do what you need to do for your sanity.

who knows...he may end up being your best friend down the road. love conquers all and the lack of love and understanding sometimes defeats us.

September 29, 2007
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I am not really in a position to talk right now, but I am in the same position as mousey, I am planning to confront my husband tomorrow and would like some advice from you guys on how I should do this. I want a divorce, because this has been a lie my entire marriage.

September 29, 2007
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Lies destroy marriages. It all amounts to trust. If even an ounce is compromised then there is no trust and very hard to gain. Without trust a relationship is doomed. The bigger the lie, the more trust is destroyed. Trust is key ingredient in relationship. Divorce to me is easier to get over than rebuilding trust. If you rebuild the trust only to have it destroyed again, you'd be better off trusting yourself. Always trust yourself first and foremost. It is not so much the matter or issue, go with your instincts. If it smells bad, it is. Part of good communication is confronting your fears. To keep it in is to be in the dark and that could go on for a very long time, denial is the word I think that comes to mind. Get of out denial, might be painful at first but better in the long run. Good luck.

September 30, 2007
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needhelp2
Since I am not totally fimiliar with your situation it is hard to give the correct advice. I assume your husband has been dressing for some time but am not clear as to how long you have known. I guess the best I can say is you need to decide weather you can live with his dressing. I have been told and have experienced for the last two months that once we know they stop lying about what is currently going on. That doesn't make the past better though. That's what you need to decide. Can you put that behind you. If you can't then you need to be perfectly honest with him. Tell him you need to talk. Tell him exactly what you know. Be sure to ask questions, plenty of them. You nay not like what you hear but it will definetly help you to make your decision. But whatever you do, don't jump into anything. Take your time and think about what you really need to do, and be sure it's for you not him. My feeling was that since he didn't care about how I would feel while he was dressing then he will have to deal with my decision now. After all, he is the one who caused this. If you haven't read all my posts just realize that it is a lot deeper than a fetish. It is definetly psychological and possibly also biological. Some men are happy just to wear undies and stockings under their regular clothes and others like my husband need full dress. And no psychologist or psychiatrist can explain why. My husband can't even explain why. I will check in to see how things are going. Please feel free to ask anything you need to know. Since we are in the same situation I would be happy to help in any way I can. Good luck

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If you love him then do everything to save your marriage and make your relationship work. If you have problems, seek help. Consult a marriage/relationship counselor if you can.

November 29, 2015
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~ShiningLight why on earth would you pull up a post that was written 8 years ago and answer it?

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My name is what hoes tend to mention, keep talking bitches, I love the attention. →

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